I really need some help, please?

I know if i'm with him longer, we will form a stronger bond and relationship and when i do tell him, it will be harder for him to leave me. Which is selfish but i really don't want to lose him. I thinkhe would understand or at least try to understand why i did it, but he wouldnt be able to cope with how bad my lies were. If they were small ones he would understand but because they are so bad and what i put him through so far was completely worthless and pointless he will find it hard. I really don't know when or if to tell him. Do i wait a year and then think our relationship is serious or wait until potencially we get married! which is yearrrrssss in advance! I think i will have to judge it for myself. I just can't wait to get away to university where no one will know me and i can tell the truth to everyone and not have to cover my lies! I am letting them die down so no one really talks about them now, i think it just scares me that because i've said it so many times i almost believe what i tell people! I start believing it myself and it's all because of pier pressure about 3 or 4 years ago! and because i found it so easy to lie then i just kept doing it. Like everyday so far i've told some sort of lie! but it's like "i saw this person yesterday" when i didn't and it makes me think..does everyone lie like everyday? or do i seriously have that much of a problem?!

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I think that everyone tells untruths. Most people tell little white lies occasionally and then there are people like us who tell great big lies all the time. I wish there was some sort of pill we could take to make the lying stop, but there isn't. Only you know what's best for you and if you need to wait to tell your boyfriend about the things you lied about than that's okay...don't beat yourself up about it. You want to change and not lie anymore and that's important! You know your relationship better than anyone here in this forum or your family or friends and you will know when the time is right to tell him. I know it sounds lame, but you have to listen to your heart and do what is best for you...don't let anyone else tell you how you should run your life. I know you are scared; what you're going through is, in my opinion, one of the scariest things a person can go through...it's a very lonely road. I'm always hear to talk and listen, so keep writing - I will never judge - I'm in the same shoes as you:)

Thank you so much.
I am so scared and i hadn't realised until i'd stopped lieing. I'm glad i am not the only person in the world with this problem, and to be honest i hadn't realised i had such a problem or a "disorder" until i read about this forum. I'm glad i've found someone who wont judge me and knows what a big deal this is for everyone with it and how hard it can be.
Thank you for being so understanding.

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The best thing you can do is to start confessing in front of those people whom you lied in your life.

I'd be there forever, seriously, then i'd have no one left.