lied to me this whole time

Hi, (i posted this somewhere else as well)
I've been going out with my bf for 1.5 yrs now. About 6 months ago, I found out about something he was hiding from me. I also find that he easily lies to other people. I asked him about this once and he said, "Yeah, but I could never lie to you." I believed him.
Then recently, I was having a really bad day, and I just asked him to please tell me if he had lied about anything else to me. I actually got him to confess that he had lied to me "a lot". This whole time I had thought he'd previously been cheated on. That was a lie! He made it up, and went along with it for 1.5 yrs!
Also when he was away, staying at some place, he had told me he was sleeping on a couch in the lounge, but then revealed to me that he was sleeping in some girls room (in the other bed).

I asked him if he had ever cheated on me, and he said, "No of course not." Then he said, "But honestly, if I did, I wouldn't be able to tell you about it... BUT I haven't."

What do you guys think of this? I can't believe he lied to me so much... we are so close & I just don't get it.

rainhappy wrote: I can't believe he lied to me so much... we are so close & I just don't get it.

I think you and I would have different definitions of "we are so close".

It seems more that YOU *feel* that the two of you are close.

You are only as close as it's possible to be with someone incapable or unwilling to be honest with you.

Isn't it possible that you deserve better? ...something to think about.

Of course this could make for a very exciting (in a painful way) life. If that's what you're up for. :/