My Sister is a Liar

My sister is a pathological liar. Nearly everything she says is somehow exaggerated or a total lie. She's been like this my whole life, and she's not only destroyed my trust for her but the trust of nearly everyone in her life. She lies to make herself look better, by putting other people down in her stories, or just to spice up conversation and get attention. The lies get so bad as to cause extreme arguments, and sometimes physical fights, and there have been multiple times throughout her life where she's caused legal issues and even driven nice people to do terrible things. And the worse part is, she will not admit that she's a liar. It doesn't matter if you overhear her blatantly lying and confront her, if you even recorded it, because every time she's confronted, she just lies more in an attempt to get out of it, and becomes extremely defensive. I've gotten to the point where I'm nearly consumed with hate for her, because every time I talk to her, or hearing her talking, she's just gushing lies and drama. She's ruined so many people's lives and relationships, and she seems to do so without any remorse whatsoever. It's not like she gains anything either, so I'm not sure why she feels the need to be like this.

We had a falling out last night and she's already called everyone she can to lie about the situation, even though it was absolutely pointless to do so. She came to me with a "peace offering" in tears, claiming to be so sorry and that she was trying to change, but when I brought up that I had overheard her lying and that several people had called me to confirm what she had said (because it was outrageous), she stopped crying instantaneously and got immediately defensive. Just a few minutes ago, I went to confront her about her lying again, talking to her about compulsive lying, and that I know that she can't completely help it. I was trying to get her to confess that she was lying, and convince her to go to therapy (because it's free for her now with her insurance) but instead, she got angry and began to cuss at me and say that I was the one lying about everything, that she never lied. It turned into an argument, which my dad broke up, and now I'm fuming.

I'm so tired of her lying, and just her in general. She abused me my whole life, and is the main obstacle in getting my parents' help financially so that I can get a car and move out. She's drained people, broken their trust, and spread an insane amount of lies about them, but she still claims to be the victim. She's promiscuous too and has played people in order to make her ex jealous, even driving one man to the point where he stalked her because she had warped his brain so much. And that's not even the majority of it. It would take days to make a dent in the awful things she's done to people through lying and manipulation.

She's going to be having a baby soon too, (which she got pregnant with two weeks after a breakup with the ex I mentioned early, with the most recent dude she was playing), and I'm worried for the child's future. Almost every kid in my family has been excessively abused due to rampant, untreated mental illness, and I won't be surprised if my sister is horrible to her child..

I hate to spew so much negativity in my sister's name, but she brings so much misery to the people around her, and has hurt me more than anyone else in my life. I'm tired of this, and I just want her to get help and get better, so she can be at peace along with everyone else.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. And before, "Why don't you just get away from her?" That's not an option for anyone right now. I'm only 18, with no car, job, and in early stages of lifetime trauma and schizophrenia treatment. And she can't move away because she has no job, savings, or life skills really. If she left, she'd still be coming around to siphon money from our family, and everyone knows she loves drama too much to get away completely, no matter how much she says she wants to. She thrives on it.

Sorry for the long and rambly post..I have so much tucked away inside me it's unbearable at times.

I've been reading this and I will share it because it helps me point out my own lying identifiers and those in other compulsive liars. It's a kindle ebook called "How To Tell If Someone Is Lying". You just go to the amazon kindle store and search "How To Tell If Someone Is Lying" and select the one with black and red font and a woman in a white shirt.