Im new here and im a liar

Hi, My name is Matt. I'm here because I burnt my relationship to the ground because of my lying and I need help. I started off lying about small things like what purchases I made and how much they were when we were trying to save money. It built up to the point where I lied about cheating on her until she asked me enough times to where I told her what happened. I guess I feel like I am lying to avoid punishment and I need to stop. I am also reading the "FULL DETAILS on How to Stop Lying" I like the Idea of carrying a small notebook around to record when I lie. Then I have something to reflect back on and check my progress so I can beat this, because I know I can. I will take any advice I can get. I am also going to see a therapist soon as I can get an appointment. I always said ahhh I don't have to talk to someone to solve my problems...I was wrong. Please help, any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks for reading

-Matt

I just wanted to post again because I had my first meeting with my therapist. It went very well, if anyone is contemplating weather or not to go...Just go. For my lying he said I have to understand why I lie first. He also said the notebook idea is good but I should still reflect back on why. I caught myself in a lie today but corrected it promptly. I guess the why for that lie was I wanted add more to what I was saying to maybe get a better reaction out of the person I was talking to. Anyway my girl friend of 7 years agreed to go to therapy with me, I hope she knows that it will help tremendously for both of us if this all happens to work out. Oh, my therapist also said its the constant little lies can be just as bad as a big one. Well I will keep you all posted, I'm worried though...I f*cked up bad.

Thanks for sharing, truly. I'm a newlywed and am in a similar lying boat with my wife. I'm seeking out therapy asap to help fix what I can, but I feel that nothing an be salvaged or put back the way it was before. She's right to not trust me. Your story does give hope that we can change, so thank you very very much for sharing. Best of luck to you with everything.