I am in a state of self destruction from my lies and need he

Hello everyone

My name is brad and I need any help possible with my compulsive lying. I have known about it for many years and was controlling it pretty well for years by thinking before I spoke but when my wife whom I love more than anything got sick is searched out any recognition I could which led to an affair. I want to be able to just get back to normal, if anyone has any pointers, tips please help