How do you stop devaluing someone?

So I'd been in the DBT program for 13 months and my therapist graduated me from the program last Monday. We'd been talking about it for a couple of months prior and he knows that I did not feel ready and he even told me that he wasn't sure if I was ready either. I guess ever since he started bringing it up, I started to feel resentful of him and it felt like he was abandoning me too because he knows I'm not ready. Now that I'm done with the program what am I supposed to do? I'd like to be able to trust my therapist again because I never had that connection and trust with any other therapist, but I just don't know how to stop feeling so betrayed.

I once split my therapist black… I managed to unsplit her by realizing that she's human and not perfect and, moreover, by deciding to forgive her for not being perfect.

I understand that my therapist is only human and is not perfect but it's his job to make sure that I'm ready for this. Like I said, it feels like he's abandoned me. He knows that I don't really know the skills and am not really ready and that I still have self-harming behaviors and suicidal ideations. It just feels like betrayal. How do you forgive that?

-- Sat Oct 06, 2012 4:33 pm --

I understand that my therapist is only human and is not perfect but it's his job to make sure that I'm ready for this. Like I said, it feels like he's abandoned me. He knows that I don't really know the skills and am not really ready and that I still have self-harming behaviors and suicidal ideations. It just feels like betrayal. How do you forgive that?

I read your post and started a DBT thread. Perhaps you can post there when you're feeling the urge to SH or having SI and people can guide you on how to use your DBT skills to get through them. Perhaps your therapist was trying to get you to not rely so heavily on the class and to start using the skills you've learned on your own.