Has your non BPD dumped you and then come back?

He dumped me 2 weeks ago - no prior warning that he intended to - the break up occurred in the context of me threatening to dump him because he didn't love me enough...

I have told him I thought I might have BPD before, however he never really took it seriously...

It has now been 1 week since we spoke... I told him that I was so sorry and seeking therapy...

The main issues in our relationship were abandonment fear, raging / tantrums and insecurity.... I never cheated on him and never hurt him physically or tried to isolate him from his family etc... It was more regular rows over little things and constant accusations that he didn't love me enough...

Do you think he might contact me again one day? Or is this permanent NC?

We have been together 14 months and he was going to propose in Jan 2013.

Ammy

try reading "i hate you, don't leave me"
getting to close problebe sets off here defensmechnisms and you get the classic borderline push/pull
or she hates being alone more than you (no offens)
if you wanne stay with here ther's a chanse that from time to time she'll want some space couse things are getting to intens for here.
imho borderlines are not easy but you get a lot back from them

if it's any consolation, my boyfriend and I broke up back in June or so, our relationship had always been very tumultuous, due to my bpd, pretty typical stuff. within a month we were hanging out a little bit again and now we're pretty much back into our normal routine, though I've refused to put any sort of label on it this time. he wanted me back pretty hardcore and I gave in. for whatever reason, our relationship's been a lot less crazy since we took that break. give him some space to collect himself, and you never know what could end up happening. maybe he'll come back, maybe he won't.... but it's not an impossibility. especially if he was getting ready to settle down with you. meanwhile, definitely do everything you can to work on yourself.

I hope that helps in some way. best of luck.