Are bpd's really as bad as people say we are?

Sometimes I come across stuff on the Internet while researching bpd that makes me feel like I must be some kind of monster. Am I really that horrible? I don't know anymore. I don't know who I am. Are we really so terrible or are we just suffering with an illness? There is a certain website, which I will not name because I don't want people to be as triggered as I was by it, that paints us to be abusing heartless devil women who just want to use men. It was by some woman offering therapy for people affected by borderlines.
I don't feel like I do that. But maybe I'm just not very self aware, maybe I am that bad.


Millie x

There are always going to be ignorant and discriminatory people who will paint people with mental illness in a negative light. I think possibly the media is partially to blame, both because of the lack of awareness raised in terms of mental health, and also because films/tv/books/news etc. demonise people like us. They do not understand us, they don't try to understand us, and so to them our behaviour can be seen as dangerous, malicious, perhaps even evil. You are not a bad person. Do you think the other people on this forum are bad people? We all suffer from illnesses that make us think, feel, and act in ways that can hurt ourselves and other people, but generally we can't help it, and it takes a long time for us to be in a position where we can start controlling our impulses and changing our thought processes. I'm sorry you feel like that, I go through feelings of guilt and thinking I'm a bad person a lot too, it's hard to realise that you're not, but fairly easy for other people to make you feel worse. Don't invalidate yourself, there are enough people out there doing that for you already.

Millie, I bet I know the site you're talking about. I bet a lot of us do. In fact, if you search through my posts, I'll bet you'll find five results with that site's name in there (there is a sixth, but that's in the admin section).

Please, please, don't listen to the people on that site, or any other site that puts us down. We're not monsters. Did I stress that enough? I promise you, we're not. First of all, how many monsters have an overwhelming desire to be loved? The dragon doesn't send the princess flowers, the troll doesn't build a nicer bridge for the people crossing over it, and Godzilla doesn't tiptoe through downtown Tokyo.

Do we mess up, sometimes? Yeah. Everyone does. But that doesn't make us bad, it makes us human.

just the regular cluster B thing
nothing more nothing less

i'm talking to no one specific here
but i looks to me (i can be wrong) that bpd does manipulate
has compomised empthy (temporary)
and runs on addictions (love sex etc)
and is quiker to blame someone els (pranoia?)

again jmho and i can be wrong (feel free to say/think i am)

link edited by MOD. it is the exact same propaganda that paints us black.

i approve this thread. and all of the answers

we are NOT !!! we may have the propensity to act with our emotions more often than reason, but that doesn't make us hideous and loathsome. the only monster i'll agree to being is this one: . c is for cookie...that's good enough for me

I ABSOLUTELY cannot stand the stigma and misunderstanding of BPD! I know where you are talking about too. If you can believe this... I had a "friend" who decided that she would print off the information off that site and give it to me! I was so heartbroken for like a month. I kept reading it for some reason and started believing it. It was such a mean thing that she did so I am not friends with her anymore. I think she did it to be malicious as opposed to being helpful. I ended up giving it to my therapist and she wouldn't let me read it anymore and kept the paper. Can you believe how ignorant people can be? I hope with more awareness people will start to understand what it is and that we are not monsters or evil people!

Think alot also has to do with how many checkboxes of the ''diagnosis'' you tick and how other people treat you.

To give an example i tick all of them incl a sidecase of major depression syndrome, i'm extremely touchy and it doesn't help much that the people who say they care never want to openly talk to me, only type stuff to me.

My mum is also from the stone age period when it comes to things like this, if she knew she woulnd't even understand and because she doesn't she continuely triggers me all the time.
I've been called manipulative,creepy,twisted and a list of other things and i try not to care,but when i do they are in for a serious verbal discussion.

I hate, hate, hate, HATE when people judge a book by the cover--or even worse, by the title alone.

Having BPD does not make you a monster. The first and only GOOD explanation I've heard of BPD that was short (not a long list of symptoms) was a 3rd degree burn victim. The slightest touch, even if gentle, hurts like heck.

Symptoms are just that: symptoms. They're not definitions of who we are, and they don't mean we're bad people. They mean we need help, and like anyone else, may have some room for improvement. But they don't mean we're bad people or monsters.

It's like Anasui said to me before and I wholeheartedly agree.

"it's the ones who do wicked $#%^ to people and act apeshit crazy, that give us a bad name"

Not everyone with BPD is like that.

CBear wrote:It's like Anasui said to me before and I wholeheartedly agree.

"it's the ones who do wicked $#%^ to people and act apeshit crazy, that give us a bad name"

Not everyone with BPD is like that.

D'awwww, thanks.

But it's true... Some with BPD, but to the extreme, can give BPD in general a bad name... Or those who just blame everything on their BPD... "I'm mad at you because of my BPD", "I killed that asshole because of BPD", "I am doing this because of BPD, you can't get mad at me!". That annoys me to no end.

I do not care what a person's disorder is, may it be mentally, emotionally, physically, whatever, they have NO right to treat others rudely. They need to grow the f*ck up and take responsibility for their actions.