Is my mom Borderline

I need help and answers to found out if my mom is BPD. My mom is a very unstable person. I was afraid of her since I was 5. I knew she was abused as child her a raging alcoholic mother. She did similar things to me, my brother, and my father. She even broke my father's leg. She blames other people instead of herself. A few times she threaten to kill herself when things went bad. She does things to make everybody feels sorry for her. Like she twisted the story about my dad all of her money that her father laid out to the whole family. The truth was my father was spending stuff on the whole. It might not been the right thing to do but she thinks she doesn't nothing wrong. I have been struggling with my own problems with Bipolor and Alcoholism. She was really big at screaming at people and making them feel miserable. She lowered myself self-estemed level for many years. I also have a learning disability. Notice I am same guy as crazyman except I forgot my password so I am using a different name but I need a reply with this because now I know my mom was never really criminal but she was emotional and verbally and even occaisonally pysically abusive to the family. She proveked alot of anger of everybody. She see a pychrist but doesn't tell him the truth.

I think a good book I read that helped me understand my feelings and helped explain alot of what my mom did was a book called understanding the borderline mother. It felt like it was written about me and my moms relationship. I think the only person who can answer if your mom has bpd is a DR. but if you search book stors and the internet there is lots of info out there that you can find to help yourself regardless of weather or not your mom chooses to get help!