Alcohol and BPD...

Thank you Suppressedemotions, Mystic dolphin, Me...today.

No worries. I am aware of what I am dealing with and you know how the rest of it plays out being on the other side of it.

I am not posting here to 'hate on' BPD or alcohol. Just...it doesn't solve any problems for anyone. I cannot imagine what is is like to be BPD, I have my lousy days too, I think most people do at times.

The booze, just amplifies it. Minimum for the partner it does, for pwBPD, I am not sure exactly how it works to feel better getting drunk. I have only been witness to it not being particularly effective.

I know BPD can be cured. It's a personal journey.

it does sound like he has other issue's than BPD

That is what frightens me. More so than, if it were BPD alone. ASPD? I don't know. I am not a psychiatrist.

I truly hope for you that are using it as a crutch, that you find the strength to kick it away. For your sake and health and that of your partners.

Me...today.

violence in any form is not expected to be tolerated. Im BPD but BPD or not, which ever form violence takes... Physical, mental... It isn't something that in my opinion should be expected to be excused for WHATEVER reason!

Somebody else needs to read this from you. In the" My BPD GF wants me to move out" thread. Will carry more weight coming from you. I think the Mods would like to kick me out of here as well.

I like to work with Facts. Facts are beautiful and immutable. When using feelings as facts, we run into serious problems. I can empathize and understand the emotions that drive the behaviors, but they still don't change the Facts.

^I'm really hearing what you are saying! I don't have a partner any more thank goodness although I do have a daughter. I hate the thought of my drinking having an effect on my daughter. I try my best not to allow this to happen. I do feel better when I've had a drink than when I haven't. I don't feel ill, pass out, lose my temper, become abusive.I can see how drinking effects people from both sides. I've lived with an abusive alcoholic!

I will reiterate what I've already said and please DO take care of your needs first. Whatever emotion or diagnosis is behind your husbands abuse isn't excusable. It's up to him to accept he has a problem and search for professional help. I'm only guessing but I don't suppose he thinks he's the problem! Just keep yourself safe!

mystic

Please either create your own thread or comment here: borderline-personality/topic46219.html

Unfortunately there's not a "BPD shaming because a non's partner won't get help" thread. There's also a reason for that. Most of us are painfully aware of what we cause and have little control over it.

atomicuniverse wrote:Please either create your own thread or make one of your own: borderline-personality/topic46219.html

Unfortunately there's not a "BPD shaming because a non's partner won't get help" thread. There's also a reason for that. Most of us are painfully aware of what we cause and have little control over it.

Sorry! I was only trying to help! I'm BPD so don't want to post in the nons thread. I didn't want to offend anyone. I just get everything wrong. Sorry for anyone I've upset!

mystic

Can I bring this back to getting opinion's on what are people's experiences with alcohol and symptom's? ... Do many people drink alcohol in an attempt to lesson symptom's? Does it help? Does it make it worse? What are your thoughts?

bottom line is, it makes everything worse. so much worse.

Rainbow Sprinkles...

I know your right.

I think we all drink to lessen symptoms or try to avoid emotions, as said above makes things a lot worse. You start off with a mental health issue and before you know it you have an addiction problem as well.