Does anyone have long periods where everything is ok?

Do any of you guys ever not feel, empty, sad and insignificant? I'm wanting to disappear right now but hoping someone has felt worthy, loved properly and signficant for at least a decent amount of their lives. I need hope there is something else?

Hi Winterblue,

yes, I can honestly say I have that - long periods where my BPD seems dormant or nothing much triggers it and I'm doing just fine. I'm in one of those right now or my posts on here would be a lot more negative...

For me, it got easier with age - I'm in my thirties now. I don't know about the theory that BPD gets better by itself over time - but I have learned more effective coping mechanisms and generally accept myself more.

Thank you. I was only diagnosed last year 39 and before that was constantly in relationships so didn't really have the intensity that I'm feeling now. Just thought it was all part of me having problems in relationships and that I was extremely needy. Now I've been on my own for over a year I'm finding it a constant daily struggle. Don't want to rely upon a relationship to pull me out of this (even thought that would be ideal) as I know the problems would just be hidden away again. Think all of my issues stem from my really low opinion of myself that I can't seem to shake even though I know I've accomplished things in my life. I don't see that on a daily basis. Just feel like a big fat failure. Anyway, enough complaining. Thank you for the hope. I do want to change. Some days are just a lot harder than others. Hoping the days that are easier get more numerous over time

I've had long periods when things are ok, and in fact am in the middle of one. Before I had been diagnosed but when they had just given me the depression dx, my mum was like, every time we think you're better you get low again. It's like someone randomly flips a switch in my head.


I think graduating has something to do with it. Now I feel like I've done something, being the first in my family to do it.

Congratulations! That's fantastic and a huge achievement. What course did you complete? Will you keep studying if you've done so well?

I have had this happen to me too. In fact, I didn't think I had BPD because I went a year without it. I am only 24, and I have been diagnosed since 17. The only break it took was when I was 19. I was so happy. It seemed like it just vanished. Then it came back full force and everything went to hell and a hand basket again.