Guys I have a problem...please answer

I need some advice...

As I said before, I am trying to rekindle a friendship. Ive done everything right. I took him to DBT so he could see how BPD was...

Well he made some serious accusations. He called me a liar and a thief based on some rumors he heard that a mutual friend told him that he had been building up anger about. Shes BPD and has made my life a living hell because I dont associate with her because shes dangerous. Shes lied about me..Hacked into my social networking sites and have stalked me at school. And he has no evidence to believe these claims. He never came to me or anything.

Well I did a lot of the skills FAST and DEAR MAN with him. I told him that I lived an honest life and if he couldnt have faith in me that I would do the right thing, then I couldnt have a friendship like that. he also kept bringing up my oast BPD behavior and I have apologized numerous times. I told him I wasnt going to do it again. I told him if he couldnt have some radical acceptance about it and see for himself, then our friendship isnt going to work. I cant change the past but I can do something about the future.

I left him kinda speechless but he seemed receptive. i feel like I set boundaries with him. The thing is I dont want to repeat past behaviors with him so I dont want to wash my hands of him, but do I really want to be with someone who thinks I am a liar? Or do I since I have set boundaries, wait to see if he proves me otherwise?

It sounds like you've done everything you can to try to reconcile with your friend, maybe he just needs time?
I'm not all that good with friendships, so can't offer too much advice, but I think if you're honest and apologise for any mistakes made and are accepting of their faults (to a point!) then I don't see what else you can do.
good luck xx

You've made some amazing steps that go above and beyond the norms in renewing a friendship. If your friend seems a bit gun shy and a tad too focused on the past, just give it some time. Your friend's apprehension is just normal and will dissipate with time as his fears are quashed. You'll be fine. Keep on the same path and pretty soon everything you've said about changing will become fact and not just words. You rock.

I agree with the others on giving him time. You've done a lot more than most people would though so kudos to you, you sound like an awesome friend. That also means he could use a friend like you though. But remember you have to take care of yourself too. I think it's really important that you set boundaries though. I've found that with myself it's a lot easier if people are straight forward and honest with me, and when I'm not doing well boundaries need to be set to keep me on track. So maybe it will help with him too.