FeeL like a fight is brewing..sense of dread.help!

I hate days like these. My BF has been acting very aloof all day. I have approached him a few times and conversations have been terse and short. On one hand I know he is preoccupied with finances but on the other hand, I asked him if "we were alright and he didn't even look at me and said he had a lot if things to consider.

WTF.

He knows that to a bpder this is a sort of response that causes stress, worry and me being upset, wondering what I did. I feel like he is going to deliberately start a fight with me or somehow provoke me later, and i dread, 100% talking to or seeing him later tonight. I just want a normal life. I wish to god I didn't ponder every word out of a person's mouth. It's so difficult as it is, I have tried to self sooth but I am getting a sick sense of resignation.

Is having BPD a terrible cycle of relationship "okayness". Then some sort of build u, then a horrible argument? If so how do I ever get out of this without dnding my relationship?

I hear you!
I feel the same way. It's disillusioning to feel like you never really know where you stand. When my boyfriend is aloof or even the slightest standoffish, I take it COMPLETELY personally. It eats at me, and then in my head, I am planning for the end, thinking of how he's found someone better, someone worth it, that he's tired of my S***. I am really sorry that you're feeling that way. I believe he's likely not being that way because of you, and as you said, hes worrying about his financials right now, which is a big takeover in one's head, and very distracting. Is is it nice weather where you are, what if you went outside and tried to distract yourself? Read a good book, get your mind off of him for a moment.
I know that our relationships take over our life, they're the hub of what's most important, but maybe a slight bit of space would do you both well?

Feel free to PM me if you like.
All the best today.

My husband has a very stressful job where he travels every week...as if I need that for abandonment issues. I've had to just tell myself that it's his job, and hopefully her wont have to do this anymore in a year or so. He's not abandoing me...he's just working.

My husband does get angry about finances...and he is always really stressed. I've had to learn that it isn't me, although he'll say otherwise sometimes...but I've learned if I just pick up the kid's stuff 10 - 15 minutes before he walks in the door it makes all the difference. You just have to find that little thing...the stress relief, or something you can do that will bring his mood down.

If the sex dept is ify right now...which it is for me...I've read the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, and that has helped me a lot!! Just putting that out there. LOL