Help:-(

This is my first time on here, and I just needed some answers please, the thing is I have recently been assessed by a psychiatrist who told me I was fine and nothing was wrong, although I guess i was shocked, in the meeting(3 weeks ago) I told him everything about my past etc as I thought it would be best to be honest, I stated that at some points in my life I would drink vodka occasionally and would be out of it, this is how i used to deal with the really low points(occasionally) However I dont do this as a rule now I have drunk twice in 6 months. I had a letter from my GP asking to go in to discuss the letter from my assessment. I was devastated as the doc told me that he had suggested that I have Borderline P Disorder, and that the psychiatrist has asked that my children be safeguarded as i drink in excess and am a single mum. This is NOT the case, I have drank in the past yes but even s o never in front of my children and they didnt impact from this. I have always put my children forst I love them so so much and would never hurt them, in fact they are what keep me going and make me get up in a morning. I feel he has totally twisted my words and now I am sick to my stomach worrying that my kids are going to be taken away, I dont know what to do, the doc has said I will have to go back to him and talk properly and he will have some sort of meeting? I have no idea what to expect or what is going off, I dont feel I have been explained anything. I cant live without my kids and feel so betrayed that this psych has twisted everything I said, I understand that all children should be put forst but I would never ever put my children at harm, although I hate most things about myself being a good mum is something I try and perfect as I dont see how my children should suffer how I feel, which is why I try so hard not to show whats going on in my head when I am so low. I really wish I had not gone for help as I have made things ten times worsse and I feel so so angry at myself.

Hi rainbow...


First off, let me say that I truly feel for you, and my heart goes out to you. I do not feel that you have been given a fair shake.

I'm not sure what country you live in, but in the US, child protective services would have to come out on more than one occasion to observe you with your children and to evaluate their safety. To my knowledge, unless you were to enter an in-patient facility, I'm not sure that they could necessarily take your children away just due to a psych evaluation, but I do not pretend to be the authority on this.

Regardless, if you were to go ahead and make an appointment to see a therapist, or you were to get another opinion from another psychiatrist, could you possibly negate the original practitioner's opinion?

Just trying to offer some thoughts... we are here for you <3


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Some p-docs are hardheaded and it must be frustrating knowing they are not listening. Unfortunately, they are the authority figures and must be treated as an unpleasant boss would be. What I suggest is you contact your doctor and in a calm and rational manner explain that there is a misunderstanding in what he believes the situation with your drinking is. If this fails, see another doctor and try to have him override the statement - there surely is one out there who will listen.

Thank you so much for your replies.... I am seeing a GP this morning so will go in an try and put my point accross. I should add that I have only seen the psychiatrist once and I am not sure if it is relevant but I found him to be very unprofessional, he was texting on his phone throughout and told me it was because he had an accident in the car and someone is trying to take advantage of him by asking for money, he then went on and on saying that he is like me in a way and the only difference is that people ta\ke advantage of him becuase he is a doc and people assume he has a lot of money. He then went on to tell me how he doesnt see his children anymore. Throughout the assessment i felt very uncomfortable and he kept making comments about my appearance saying I was too thin and very attractive and that if I want to date I should choose educated people as then I wont have bad experiences. I am really shocked at what he wrote behind my back as when I asked he said that he didnt think anything was wrong woth me and that it was just that I had been through a lot due to my childhood etc. I am no expert but I dont think he should have gone on like this, and all he wanted to talk about is every partner I had and why it went wrong, I was just trying to illustrate the fact that I find it hard to be intimate and so in the past I have needed to drink to do so.........If I didnt feel bad I do now, I cant sleep or eat as I am worrying like mad my kids are going to be taken away, this will not only destroy me but my children as well.

He did all that? Wow, that's just screwy. If my psych started texting in the middle of a session, the first thing out of my mouth would be "someone had better be in hospital, or someone's gonna be." That kind of action by a psych should not be tolerated. I'm glad you're going back to see your GP; maybe ask if your GP can recommend or write you up to get a second opinion. I think you're right in your assessment of the first psychiatrist in that a lot of those actions are definitely unprofessional.

I'm really sorry that you have to go through all of this. I can understand being devastated at the diagnosis by your GP - I was, too - but it's not the end of the world. You'll settle into it, I promise. And if you ever need to ask anything or just vent, we're always here for you. You can always PM MissAli or myself if you would rather talk privately.

Just know that you're not alone, and I don't expect that anyone will be taking your kids away, not on one visit with a self-absorbed psych. They're not going anywhere.

((big hugs))