Having BPD/Relationship Over

Hey everyone, I am new here.... so I don't know if this is the proper place to really post this, well it is a relationship thing. I'm a 20 year old female, my diagnoses are: borderline personality disorder, major depressive disorder, social and general anxiety disorder, a long with insomnia, PMDD, and I get very obsessive easily.

I was in a relationship with a wonderful man for about 14 months. It just ended about 6 weeks ago. I am finally starting to feel a little better, but it killed me everyday. It felt like a slow suicide. I've been having more panic attacks since the break up, and nights are the worst for me. My ex started seeing a therapist and they have told him that he needs to set hard boundaries between us. It makes me feel like $#%^, like I'm some kind of animal that needs to be caged. I was wondering if anyone has any advice with how to deal with boundaries, and the loss of someone you truly put all your heart and life into? I'm practically rebuilding myself now, and it is deathly scary.

Thanks if you have any feedback, or advice. <3

That really sucks that all that happened :/ but you shouldn't dwell on it!
First off was the breakup just like a general gradual thing or one big event? Either way just take things easy and don't think you need to rush around rebuilding your life, you're young (i sound old when i say that...but we're the same age so just take it a day at a time. Keep yourself busy with hobbies or friends, a night with a few mates just chilling can burn off a lot of stress.

But I can't stress this enough, don't go rushing to the next guy you see it will cause big issues and just won't work out. Just take you're time if you meet someone new and let them know you just want to be yourself for now, they will surely understand.

I gave my all to a girl once... it left me quite bitter on the outside but i assure you I remain a gooey marshmallow on the inside :3. So i'm happy if you just want to chat about little things or indeed serious things, just send a pm if you want to.

And smile a little

Hun, welcome to the forum! I will post this to the BPD forum and leave a shadow thread here, so that you can receive support from both forums. They are very friendly and welcoming on BPD.

hi ilove;
Welcome to the forum.
Allow yourself to greave, it hurts, it sucks..
We all know the hurt you are going through. I think at one time or another everyone has gone through what you are and did.
Look out for you right now, breath. You are a good person… and I know it wont help right now and it sounds like some great cliché, but things will get better.

Boundaries are a hard thing, I cant set them to save my soul.. I suck at boundaries, so hopefully someone else can help both you and I in this one.

hugs

Nothing to say that can help you feel how you feel and deserve support. I do know how you feel my life has revolved around pain like that for similar reasons. Glad you found this forum there are always lots of supportive comments and people on here. Vent to your heart out and wishing you well xo