BPD and forgetting something....(may trigger)

I've been in a friendship with someone who told me she had anxiety and depression. I found out 6 months ago, she has also been diagnosed with BPD. We've been friends for 9 years. I care for her very much. At times, she has such intense anger. I'm reading and learning as much as I can about her diagnosis.

Lately, I've felt she has intense anger towards me. When I ask her, she says, "no". But, it's easy to sense her anger. Her eyes look like they are filled with rage. We usually meet each other at a local fast food and eat breakfast together. One morning, I didn't go and told her I wouldn't be there. The next time I met her, she yelled at me over and over saying, "You've set me back in my therapy!"

This is not the first time something has happened like this....it's usually very unexpected. I didn't see her for about a week after this happened. The last thing I ever wanted to do was interfere in her therapy, much less set her back!!! I truly care for her!

I saw her a few days later and she demanded why I wasn't coming to eat breakfast with her. I told her I didn't want to hurt her therapy (as she told me), so I figured I shouldn't come anymore. I reminded her she had told me I was setting her back in therapy. She then told me she would NEVER say something like that to me....EVER! I let it go because I didn't want to pursue an argument. But, she DID say this to me.

Is it possible that she doesn't remember because she was feeling so intense and angry???

Personally I think she does remember but doesn't want to...
I do the same thing sometimes... She's just not in a good place right now, and taking it out on someone she trusts. Someone she thinks will stick it out with her.

That's my take on it, at least.
I realise now I did the same thing and I'm pretty sure it cost me my best friend. The only friend I had left in the area...

Thanks for the reply. A couple of weeks ago she brought out some old letters/cards I'd sent to her when we first met. When we were looking at them she said, "You don't like me as much as she used to." I said, "Yes, I do!" I asked her about this later and she said she was only kidding. I feel there is more to it than just kidding. I'm wondering if she thought I didn't feel the same about her anymore. I have different feelings due to some of the things she's done, but I still care for her deeply.

Again, I can only speak from a little personal experience... And please don't ever assume I'm rigbt just because I seem to know stuff

caringfriend wrote:... she said, "You don't like me as much as she used to." I said, "Yes, I do!" I asked her about this later and she said she was only kidding. I feel there is more to it than just kidding. I'm wondering if she thought I didn't feel the same about her anymore.

I think that relationships change over time. Just because of time. But it takes me a lot of concentration too to realise that just because someone has known me for a while and thus gets maybe a little less 'excited' when they see me that it's not my fault and they haven't stopped loving me.