What are your triggers? (You could trigger)

I'm trying to think of all of mine to make myself and those around me more self-aware.

Plus I'm interested. So my fellow BPDs...

What are your triggers?

Is "everything" an acceptable answer?

StrayKitten wrote:Is "everything" an acceptable answer?

Ha, that's just what I was thinking!

Agreed. :/

I've been trying to take an inventory of my known triggers too. Will have to post this later. I've also noticed that I have different triggers that create what I call "BPD flash rages" and different triggers that make me want to split from people.

I could say "everything" too, but I can think of a few more specifics that really cause me grief.
- people telling me I'm not needed for a particular jobs- to me that means they don't want me at all anymore. Or other people being given a job to do that used to be my job- regardless of whether it's possible for me to fit the job in or not.
-particular group of people who I was bullied by- any form of chance interaction with them will send me into a spin
-having any dealings at all with a particular person at work who makes my life hell, particularly because she can't have a conversation without it being about her or turning it into being about her- I'm beginning to seriously wonder if she has some sort of PD too. She's not getting any sympathy from me though. She can just go back to where she came from.
-people telling me to "just be happy" or that "I need to get over it and just move on"
-certain phrases used by the people that were once frequently used by my bulllies - like "it's all good", or that I've "just got to smile and be happy".
-seeing people I grew up with/went to school with with successful lives/they've achieved what they wanted to do, or they're now married with children- all the things I couldn't achieve
- being told my effort isn't good enough and that I need to try harder/do more to get better (mother)
- dealing with customers at work

That's just a few for now.
*edit- also add
- people (esp. my mother) wanting to tell me what I should do and how I should do it, esp. in regard to me being "depressed" and what I need to do to get better. At one point she was just insistent that I should get off all the meds (at that point they were really helping with my depression) as they were bad for me.
-people assuming they know what I need, or making decisions for me because I can't decide what I think/feel/need/want. And if I do actually manage to decide on something, it's always the wrong decision.

I'm in the process of figuring out my triggers as well, but I totally get what you mean lilyfairy about people telling you 'just snap out of it and be happy' when I'm already upset and in a rage, it really pushes me over the edge because I just can't figure out how to do that and then I feel more hopeless.

My ultimate trigger is being jealous with "everything" haha!

Others are:
-when i'm bored ( i hate monotony, i wanna scream aaaaahhhh!)
-when my bf acts indifferent ( i feel ignored)
-when someone promises and they don't deliver ( i feel duped)
-when somebody lies (do they think im that dumb!!!)
-when somebody doesn't like me (i fume inside!)
-when things don't go my way (i wanna die)
-when i'm alone ( i hate my own company) --but there are times i enjoy solitude too
-when i gain weight ( i feel ugly..i vomit)
-when i am forced to do something ( i feel lazy..i procastinate, pretend it doesnt exist)

I am not diagnosed with BPD. But I definitely do have triggers.

Every day, I have a chance of getting outrageously irritated (which ends up happening), while at the same time getting stressed out of my mind.

Ehh......Everything's a trigger. Literally. Except going outside. I love going outside. But I'm scared to go outside myself, so I don't do it, because I'm afraid of being alone.

lots and lots, but the main one for me is anything that I can possibly perceive as rejection.