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Does This Sound Like BPD Behavior?

Postby cacster » Thu Jan 12, 2012 10:41 am

Hello Tidy Peeps...

This is a bit of a braindump - but, even I realise I am in midst partway between stereotypical HPD/BPD.

I realise I am going through some weird thoughts and behaviors right now... But, thought I would toss it at the board to see if any of it resembles BPD.

The upshot... After seeing this girl for a bit over a year now (this girl being my ex-GFs former best friend - former, because I started seeing her)...

I am just bored with her.

She loves me. Adores me. Wants to marry me. Wants kids with me, yada, yada, yada. She does absolutely anything for me. But, not only am I getting bored... I am beginning to resent her. I am hiding the resentment (because I rationally realise that she deserves to be treated better than that), but its beginning to be a battle to treat her right. Instead of naturally feeling I should treat her right, it is a conscious battle. When she sends me texts now... I couldn't give a crap about replying. I simply find her texts annoying now. Its a struggle to think of something positive to write back. Even sex is like going through the motions now... I am just not into it like I used to.

Two weeks ago - I was fine. Now... I am feeling nothing. Mind you... This is the way I have felt with a zillion former ex-girlfriends. A year or so... And I suddenly just lose all interest and seek new excitement.

So, just wondering (for my own curiosity), if this sounds familiar to BPD... Or, if not, I guess its the HPD coming out in me...
With a smile I'm dying inside but I know I'll be just fine
I saw love not lies but I could be mistaken
Now you've gone and I dry my eyes and I'm here for the taking tonight
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Re: Does This Sound Like BPD Behavior?

Postby talula » Thu Jan 12, 2012 12:10 pm

Boredom in relationships?? Yep, yep, yep. Been there. In fact, I've only not been bored from one relationship ever. I am very restless. I also have HPD traits. But, I've almost lost the will to distinguish what are BPD traits and what are HPD traits in me. I simple see it all as just, this is the way I am. I take boredom to simply mean, I'm not in the right relationship. But please, don't take my advice, cos I have a tendency to be bad at relationships, unless I'm madly in love with someone, which is rare.
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Re: Does This Sound Like BPD Behavior?

Postby SmileXx » Thu Jan 12, 2012 4:22 pm

I get bored in relationships... and I have no HPD traits associated with my Dx.

Whether you have it or don't... Who knows.
You have to figure out what to do with this boredom, either way.

If you're all well and good having short relationships and then finding someone new, more power to you, but sooner or later that kind of behavior will probably land you alone.
If you're not good with that, you should maybe seek some therapy for it, figure out what makes you get bored. Monotony? Monogamy? I mean what's driving your boredom?

Food for thought.
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