Comorbid BPD/NPD

Recently I read that 25% of those with BPD also have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. However, isn't it true that there is strong component of narcissism in BPD, especially when we are going through a rough patch and can't see beyond our own pain? How does one differentiate between a BPD patient who occasionally lacks empathy and a full blown narcissist? My therapist thinks my mother is a narcissist (she has BPD), but I'm not sure.

For instance, if you tell someone that they did something to hurt your feelings and they become enraged at you for being upset, what is that exactly? Once I told my mother that it really upset me that she called me a whore (yes, you read that correctly) and she immediately went into her own sob story about her mother calling her a name. This is a typical response for her. She is completely incapable of apologizing or comforting another human in distress. I know another borderline who becomes indignant, angry and cold when confronted with any kind of grievance, regardless of how reasonable it is or how upset the other person is. I don't know that many borderlines, but based on what I've read here, they can be very sensitive and in tune with how they affect others. So... if someone who's been diagnosed BPD shows a complete lack of empathy in response to another person's distress, is there something more going on there?

I don't know much about narcissism, but I did go through a big narcissistic stage. I was totally in love with myself, felt better than everyone else, I told people that I loved myself and everything. I was on top of the world. I'd go around and just say to people "I'm so hot, I ######6 love myself" bla bla bla the usual, and people were like lolwut.
I don't see myself having NPD as well as BPD though. xD I don't feel that way about myself anymore though. That really was, just a stage in my life. I'm the complete opposite of that now.

see Im the opposite..I constant have to buid myself up

msangeedepp wrote:see Im the opposite..I constant have to buid myself up

yeah i never feel good enough and i can feel "hot" for the moment with make up done right but deep down i know i am not good enough, and ugly, and feel insecure/inferior to those around me and become jealous when guys i love/loved go out or talk to girls who are better.

I need make up or hair dye etc to walk outside at all because i feel so ashamed of myself and how i appear.

I become very paranoid and that people are laughing at me and teasing me but can come across as arrogant if i am strongly opinionated or in a bad mood or feel afraid and keep to myself and walk passed men who whistle or be men lol.
But its not that i believe i am better or that i love myself in fact i am constantly in a lot of pain and choking on it and most people mention my self hate before i would say it they think i need a confidence boost but i guess maybe BPD seek attention like other PDs or become ego-centric and go after their own needs.