What do you look like? (not an invite for photos)

Hi everyone, I read/heard that a lot of Borderlines are unhygeinic and don't take much care of there appearance. I personally am good looking and like to make an effort but sometimes I won't shower for a few days in a row so that's me haha. i have no piercings or tattoos either. How about you?

foxsalt wrote:Hi everyone, I read/heard that a lot of Borderlines are unhygeinic and don't take much care of there appearance.

Ive never read/heard that. In my experience its been somewhat the opposite case.

I shower every day, except for maybe one day in a while if I haven't gone anywhere, or worked up a sweat, but that's kind of rare. Weird generalization.

I however, take great pride in my appearance for the most part, and I do have 5 tattoos, but none are visible when I'm dressed. I like them hidden. For instance, 2 of them are small, and on the back of my neck.

I used to have my tongue pierced, but I took it out.

AMP

foxsalt wrote:Hi everyone, I read/heard that a lot of Borderlines are unhygeinic and don't take much care of there appearance.

I saw this somewhere as well but my understanding of the context of the statement was that, when in a relationship, BPD's will often become more unkempt.

I think back to my ex and I realize that initially, she was very routine with grooming/waxing, like it mattered greatly to her, but after a month or two of us being together she let it go longer and longer (no pun intended ) between attending to things.

I also noticed that, if there was no reason to leave the house (or it would be brief), she would often wear the same comfortable clothing as the day before. I'm pretty sure there were times I noticed her wearing the same t-shirt three times in the same week. I remember one time where she had a stain of something on her pants; the stain had gotten there when she wore them some 5-6 days earlier. Apparently she never washed them.

We didn't live together so I do not know if she showered daily (I suspect she was more of an every-other-day person) but I would not call this unhygienic. She never stunk or appeared grubby. She could've wore ripped up sweats and had egg in hair and been beautiful to me. But yes, there were some modest complacent-like changes in her behavior.

It'll be interesting to see how this question is answered by everyone. If it's common, it would cause me to wonder if there's an subconscious element to it; perhaps testing acceptance?

I shower every day, occasionally I'll skip one day but absolutely no more than that. I feel disgusting otherwise.

I have a few tattoos and several piercings.

Hmm. That is very interesting, empathy. I mean, I live with my grandmother and help take care of her, so when I get home in the evenings, I tend to change into my comfy clothes too. And since I never actually wore them out of the house, sometimes I'll wear them more than once. But, not with any stains. Or any stench. That's kinda gross.

I keep up with grooming.

But I do tend to wonder if we do it to "test" people, like you said?

I never thought of it that way at all, but I suppose it could be possible?

AMP

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- I'm short (like 5'4")

- dark, reddish hair (hot red)

- body is a 10! (six pack; muscle and toned all over but not like guy-buff, lol; face is..err 7 or so...could be prettier, plastic surgery will change that though!)

- tongue and belly pierced, but currently nothing in them

- no tats

- ears pierced, including cart.

- I shower every day too, but I WILL skip a morning shower if I know I'm going to be working out in my house that morning with the windows open, etc, etc and music blasting

I am the same with showering its so bad ..sometimes my teeth too and i have had bulimia etc so i am surprised my teeth are not rotting out my face.

I have white skin ... i don't tan which sucks. I am about 50 kilos or so and 5''7ish. I dye my hair dark and have blue eyes.

I have some freckles but not dark and i wear make up to help bring my eyes out and look healthier when i have not been taking good care of myself.

My legs are really long and i hate that i feel like a freak.

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i have three tattoos one i am lasering off.

Eye brow , belly button, ears, side labret and tongue are pierced.

I used to have my nipple and nose and one stage labret pierced but took them all out.

I am probably removing my side labret and eye brow and piercing my beauty spot next week.

My eye brow grows out so now its ugly.

I am not the best at hygiene, but I do shower every day. I straighten my hair probably once every couple of months, and the other times I just put it in a bun or under a hat. Sometimes I'll go to bed in a hoodie and tank top and wear that the next day if it doesn't smell with different pants. When I get really depressed, I won't change my clothes for a couple of days and won't shower.

I have a bath everyday (not in the morning but before bed usually) but i've skipped days if i felt like it. I'm very low maintenance when it comes to appearance and only do the essentials. I've got lots of curly hair which i hated growing up cos I didn't know how to take care of it. Lol.
Um, what else, I change my clothes everyday but i've been so depressed before that I totally would wear the same thing for days. I have to make myself be clean out of habit, cos i can easily get lazy. Painting my own nails and going for a monthly wax and eyebrow threading is about as extreme as it goes for me in terms of maintenance. I don't go to hair salons regularly, my look is very au naturelle, and that's just me. Although I've straightened my hair a few times when i felt like a change.