Is it classic BPD or is it just me?

One day I hate my ex to the guts and feel like everything is her fault and she harmed me, hurt me, and played with me big time.

Next day I think everything is my fault and think she is charismatic and amazing and am so stupid for losing her.

Also when we were together it was like this. One day I would see all the faults she had and when she would start getting distant I would only see her good attributes!

Is this classic BPD or just me?

Classic.

Love someone one minute. Love to hate them, the next.

This is your classic BPD "splitting". Happens all the time.

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I'm exactly the same.

Awesome! Are we completely incapable of loving truly then?

Oh no, we love and we love HARD. Then, in turn, when they do something that disappoints us, we HATE them, and we hate them HARD.


That is, until a great distraction comes along, and then we wonder what we were mad about.

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MissAli wrote:Oh no, we love and we love HARD. Then, in turn, when they do something that disappoints us, we HATE them, and we hate them HARD.


That is, until a great distraction comes along, and then we wonder what we were mad about.

AMP

Can you really call this love?

No I think those are true emotions. Just instead of being able to feel a little bit of each one simultaneously and being able to balance between the two, we feel either or, and its easy for the emotions to escalate until the distraction comes along.

Northern Light wrote:No I think those are true emotions. Just instead of being able to feel a little bit of each one simultaneously and being able to balance between the two, we feel either or, and its easy for the emotions to escalate until the distraction comes along.

Don't know. In my mind love equals to a long lasting feeling and behaviour..

IMHO Most people will feel both love and hate towards people. Just that their emotions won't escalate to the point that ours do.
So for them, because they can control themselves and their behaviour, things are more mellow inside, in harmony. Everyone will have both negative and positive feelings towards their partners. Everyone have their things they love about each other and things that they would like to change.
Its no different really, the only difference is just the extreme nature how we perceive things.