borderline with dementia

How does dementia complicate Borderline disorder? Do they have a greater sense of dependence when they start to forget things?

To be honest, I'd never thought about that. I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't. The only BPD person I've knowingly met in person was me and thankfully, I'm not quite at the dementia stage just yet. But at least we'll bump it up in the hopes that someone who knows will see this thread and respond.

I can't answer your question about a relationship between the two, but I share your desire for an answer. My mom has both. So far, the manifestations have been more of the "I Hate You — Don't Leave Me" variety. She is very suspicious of my motives suddenly, saying "I know you want something, I just haven't figured out what it is," which of course would be hurtful if I didn't remember that she is ill. After expressing her suspicions today at the doctor's office, for instance, when the doctor was ready to discuss dealing with a few of her numerous physical complaints, she told the doctor to tell ME what needed to be done. Loves me/loves me not. I should add that my mother is a recovering alcoholic as well. She got sober after drinking for 42 years. A handful, to say the least.

Trigger answer...

My father had both.

In the end he would rage so badly, try to hurt others and himself that he had to be constantly medicated.
You would see little Glimpses of what he used to be, but it would never last long.

He didn’t know who I was about 90% of the time, and when he did remember , it was too hard for him to deal with, the truth of what was happening. So he would get irate, and get another injection.

In the end.. there were no more glimpses at all.

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