fashion

i myself am very interested in fashion. i dont do loads of research on it or whatever but i think about it when im out and about, i study what people are wearing etc and i love shopping. but for the life of me i cannot shop for clothes for myself! i find it so hard to find a style that suits me. i even go through stages where im like "im gonna start dressing punkier" or "im gonna start dressing more clean cut" and in the end i just end up with a plain tshirt and jeans. it's like i always look at a particular person, try and go for their particular style, and fail. it drives me insane cos im good-looking and confident enough to wear whatever i think looks good at the time but i end up looking like a confused little boy when i look at photos of myself. and im aaawfuuull with shoes. in the end i go for the plainest ones i can find because i have so many different styles in my wardrobe that i cant get a particular shoe cos it will only go with a certain outfit!

now i know i have bpd it makes more sense and i dont try as hard cos i know it's just an identity issue that will never be cured. or do i just have a crap fashion sense?

does anyone else get frustrated like me? any advice for shopping lol? i like topman, vintage, that sort of thing.

I'm not sure I can give much advice, but I kind of use fashion myself to portray things about me. Basically I wear very clean cut and expensive looking clothes to make people think I'm rich, when in reality I'm the exact opposite. I'm poor and don't come from a family with money, but I attempt to appear as though I'm wealthy. I guess that could be considered an identity issue or just a manipulative strategy, but I love shopping for myself, I have a good sense of what kind of clothes look good on me, I just never have the money to buy everything I want! I have to be very careful and selective about the clothing items I buy.

Ooooh my fav topic! Don't you live in London? Go to places like Portobello market for vintage accessories and stuff, so you stand out a bit more. What sort of look do you go for? I know you said Topman but that's quite generic. You're gonna be 21, so you're pretty young. What's your hair like? I'm trying to place you in my mind lol.

Oops edit - do you like the stuff from Joe Browns etc? Sort of festival/indie look?

Moomin, for some reason I always picture you with a hat, scarf, and gloves. And blonde hair. You look really fashionable and you've got an attitude. Am I even close?

moomin wrote:Ooooh my fav topic! Don't you live in London? Go to places like Portobello market for vintage accessories and stuff, so you stand out a bit more. What sort of look do you go for? I know you said Topman but that's quite generic. You're gonna be 21, so you're pretty young. What's your hair like? I'm trying to place you in my mind lol.

Oops edit - do you like the stuff from Joe Browns etc? Sort of festival/indie look?

sorry when i said topman i meant i love to follow their main trends. so i love the 80s stuff, slowly going into 90s. anything their website tells me to wear makes me feel safe lol. yeah i do live in london, thanks for the tips. my hair is short back and sides with the top sort of like a comb-over, the 50s kind dyou know what i mean? i cant have it too edgy cos i work in a department store (ugh). i dont know what joe browns is to be honest. id love the festival/indie look but im not sure if i could pull it off....?

mooshoo wrote:Moomin, for some reason I always picture you with a hat, scarf, and gloves. And blonde hair. You look really fashionable and you've got an attitude. Am I even close?

That's odd... I always picture moomin on a nude beach... We're like polar opposites in how we picture her.

I think that Moomin mentioned hats and scarves once. At first I pictured her like her avatar, and then when she mentioned that she likes to shop I changed my vision of her.

Cbox!! I'll get u one of these days lol

Mooshoo, not even close lol. I have really dark hair But you're probably right about the attitude!

@foxsalt

Joe browns is just an online store and they sell a lot of stuff I like. I'm sure you can pull off any look you want - it's all in the attitude, and how confident you are.
If you like hats, for eg, trilbys are everywere at the moment, and hats are always a good accessory. If ur wearing skinny jeans a lot, sneakers are fine, like those converse/baseball ones.
And yeah, your haircut is fairly current, and doesn't put you in any particular category so you can try different looks.
Have a look at the joe browns website, see if there is anything there u like, and then we can go from there.

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@mooshoo lol!! I do not look like a Moomin!