Can't Get Motivated

I can't get motivated to do ANYTHING during the day. All I do is sit around and cry and hope that some day the pain from the break up lets up.

I know it's all about getting out and DOING something, but I feel stupid going out and doing nothing. I can't really spend any money and I don't know how to make friends. There aren't any support groups around here that I can afford. Well, there's one called "Recovery International" but it seems kind of weird.

I feel stuck, and it really sucks.

It seems most pwBPD have an alcohol abuser in their life. There seems to be Al-anon meetings everywhere and they are free, though they do pass a collection envelope, about $3 is the usual donation. It helps to listen to how others cope and it gets you into a social setting where people are understanding and considerate of one another. I am new, and I don't know about your break-up, but I know how much any break-up can hurt, even if it is for the best. Give yourself time, be kind to yourself.

Alizarine wrote:It seems most pwBPD have an alcohol abuser in their life. There seems to be Al-anon meetings everywhere and they are free, though they do pass a collection envelope, about $3 is the usual donation. It helps to listen to how others cope and it gets you into a social setting where people are understanding and considerate of one another. I am new, and I don't know about your break-up, but I know how much any break-up can hurt, even if it is for the best. Give yourself time, be kind to yourself.

I actually don't go to any Al-anon or AA groups. In a relationship, I'm usually the alcoholic who drains energy from the other, so it would just be a huge guilt trip. I also have a thing against the idea of a "higher power". I'm a staunch atheist and have a big thing for self empowerment over relying in a higher power.

The person I broke up with has only been drunk once in his life, and his drinking that one evening was how he dealt with stress that I brought into our relationship.

Thanks for the suggestion, though, and reminding me of my morals.

are you seeing a psych?

i find that talking about current issues with a psych or someone else (Even a 12-step program) has some benefit. i see my psych every fortnight. 12-step programs are usually weekly.

i basically talk about an issue with my psych then we discuss it and i make a mental note to myself to resolve it within 2 weeks of our next meeting. gives you a time limit and something to work on.

that should keep you motivated, maybe not all the time but most of the time