Z1t23ch3 wrote:Any update?
No, our session isn't until tomorrow night. I haven't emailed him about it yet; have been trying to get some distance (and with that, hopefully, clarity).
Therapy has to do with trust. You MUST trust your therapist or the therapy will not work. Everyone has these sorts of assumptions, but I think the thing to do, as others have said, is to tell your therapist. Most likely he will explain the difference between reality and your perception.
I don't think he should be telling you he "feels anxious about you being difficult." He needs to leave his own anxiety out of the session. His problems are not yours - he's the therapist, for ciol. Who cares if he feels anxious? He needs to just deal and hush about it (for YOUR sake).
expressivecreative, it's a bit of a relief to hear that you have some issues with your therapist too and are working through them--that you're recognizing the need to "trust." But ",mistrust" is one of the very things we are addressing in therapy--it's sort of like the chicken and the egg. Can't trust until I've had therapy, can't progress in therapy without trust. Meh.
I do agree with that last point. I get that he wants to communicate how he is feeling, but wtf am I supposed to do about his anxiety? I've got enough of my own, and who is paying whom?
I guess I will e-mail him in a little bit. Feel the icy pit and cramps in my stomach already just thinking about it...
-- Wed Oct 12, 2011 11:36 am --
OKay, but my telling him last time that I was doubting therapy and him prompted him saying the "difficult" thing and I can't handle that again!! I don't think I am going to tell him.