The POWER Post and Choices

Yes, a lot of realisations, some more momentary, confusing, anger, resentment, pain, and some just not being able to look at things and make sense of them.

i thought of buying that schema therapy book, but thinking if just the basics of figuring out what i really think and feel are so difficult, maybe i shouldn't be trying at it quite yet or on my own. idk. but i can't guarantee/wait on NHS either...

Lol about the dreams! Yes, maybe you are overdoing it a bit! i haven't been dreaming about doing therapy yet, i hope i don't start! but yeah i think we need to know when to give it a break with the self-help now and then

http://books.google.co.uk/books?id=vScj ... &q&f=false

part of it here - but only excerpts - just as it gets to a really interesting bit about BPD ... that bit is not there - but it might give you some idea what Jeffery Youngs - Schema Therapy Practitioners guide is like. I think it looks intersting too.
Reinventing your Life is written for client/patients. I read it a coupl eof yearsa go and found out I had loads of them! ... but the solutions are not that amazing that I recall - maybe should re-read them!
Got Butlers "Integrative Therapy for BPD" - some interesting stuff in there - but having a break for a few days I think.

Absolutely the 2 BIGGEST things which restored my power were

Positive self scripts- basically changing your negative self talk, everyday, all day.....in every way
I can
I will
I am ( any positive or direct opposite of whatever negative drifted into your mind)

And getting rid of people pleasing or the need for the approval of others in any way shape or form'

I am not going to get into it now because I am all thought out for the night, but with respect to the people pleasing or need for approval......it encompasses many things...... enmeshment, self worth, values, being honest, looking at the past...ect ect....

But these 2 things are huge

ladyjello wrote:http://books.google.co.uk/books?id=vScjGGgJEZgC&pg=PA24&lpg=PA24&dq=jeffrey+young+schema+questionnaire&source=bl&ots=hRVZdCBd3I&sig=RyuG0wK6yQgzp3RGCWBOe8tA4Uk&hl=en#v=onepage&q&f=false

Interesting. ...also very interesting personally, cause they were suggesting DID and BPD have a lot in common.

ladyjello wrote:Reinventing your Life is written for client/patients. I read it a coupl eof yearsa go and found out I had loads of them! ... but the solutions are not that amazing that I recall - maybe should re-read them!

Maybe the solutions need to be approached in different ways for different people, or maybe they need to be improved on... maybe there are other approaches to solutions.. different ways for different people i guess. i haven't read it yet, so i don't know, but will comment when i have.

Going to come back and answer more thoroughly, just wanted to say that for abused children:
[may trigger]

LOVE = PAIN

What do we want out of life? Love. What does it feel like when we get it? Pain. What did we get when we were younger instead of Love? Pain. Do we want to feel pain anymore? No.

Circle, circle... see? It's difficult to break such deep conditioning. I don't know anyone, including myself, that is free of pain from this disorder.

More later. I want to read the other replies too.

I'm picking up a copy of that book! thanks for sharing the link ladyjello.