Why am I so Nice?

Unity, are you projecting your feelings onto other people? That may be something to take a look at. I think that you are a genuinely empathetic person, however, we do tend to project our stuff on to other people. We think that we are worried about their feelings when we are really projecting our own fears onto them. It ends up being much more about us really than it is about trying to protect them.

possibly...i didnt really understand what this meant (still dont, just had a quick look on line) but what i quickly read there could be a lot of truth in it....

however, i have just heard some really sad news about a close member of my family...my stomach in knots thinking how they must be feeling inside, how much they must be hurting and then just makes me feel so so so sad that they have to feel this way...i wish they didnt, i wish i could stop it...but i cant... i think this proper empathy...or maybe even that im making about me now, coz i feel sad about it....no, that cant be true coz that would mean i was bad and selfish!!

Du know i am babbling and am making no sense in my head what im on about haha.
xx