emotional vampire.

I absolutely hate the fact Borderline Personality Disorder is considered an emotional vampire when deep down i hate being depressing.
I prefered the bipolar type 2 label because bipolar is not considered an emotional vampire although the condition is probably worse in the end.

I don't know if I've heard that term before but it's completely dehumanizing

I agree.
I hate it. It is unfair even people who go through life without a conscience and are labelled as bad people they still were made the way they were and can't help that.

Hmmm... I'm familiar with the term "emotional vampire" - I had a vampire class in college (liberal arts major, natch) and there's some early 19th century story where the "vampire" is a suave young artist who doesn't actually DO anything that we would consider vampiric, other than seduce and suck the life out of his victim (she dies as if by consumption, but no fangs or blood or anything). Of course we hear it applied more liberally these day to people who tax your nerves, but who exactly is claiming this is specifically BPD, and not bi-polar or something else?

No BPD is considered the most common type of emotional vampire.
A splitter is.
BPD, NPD is also considered one.
Anyone that is passive aggressive, paranoid, etc
I just came across books about it in Dymocks before and was reading it searched it on the internet and found searches relating.
Youtube has videos too.

rebba87 wrote:I absolutely hate the fact Borderline Personality Disorder is considered an emotional vampire when deep down i hate being depressing.
I prefered the bipolar type 2 label because bipolar is not considered an emotional vampire although the condition is probably worse in the end.

Vampires? Yikes. that's a bit harsh. i always thought emotional vampires were supposed to be "people who drain you" not pwBPD or any other mental illness.

rebba87 wrote:I agree.
I hate it. It is unfair even people who go through life without a conscience and are labelled as bad people they still were made the way they were and can't help that.

i don't know that people are born without consciences, i've never met anyone who looked like a biological psychopath (no signs of trauma as more likely cause etc.) people learn empathy, sometimes i think developmental psychology happens in ways that make it impossible for people to learn empathy, and other complications as a result of that can intefere even once some of those things are sorted. PDs are complex... there is evidence of brain differences, but in most cases, brain plasticity comes to mind again.

i hate attitudes to PD. all these things are supposed to be psychological disorders, not a witch hunt

Hmmm I was just thinking about how much I was a emotional vampire the other day. I have heard people say a lot of crap about people with BPD, but never "emotional vampires".

rebba87 wrote:I absolutely hate the fact Borderline Personality Disorder is considered an emotional vampire when deep down i hate being depressing.

I hate being depressing too or whatever I am being, it's kind of frustrating. And I hate how BPD is so misunderstood.

I must admit this is news to me too. If anything in my personal experience it's more the opposite. An overdose of emotions. My partner has enough for us both and then some.

I've heard the term used often and even use it myself. There's also a book called 'Emotional Vampires' by Albert J. Bernstein, Ph.D. http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Vampire ... 0071352597 It talks specifically about AsPDs, HPDs, NPDs, OCDs, and Paranoids, but makes no mention of BPD.

http://www.drjudithorloff.com/Free-Arti ... rvival.htm


Vampire #4: The Splitter or Borderline Personality
Splitters see things as either good or bad and have love/hate relationships. One minute they idealize you, the next you’re the enemy if you upset them. They have a sixth sense for knowing how to pit people against each another and will retaliate if they feel you have wronged them. They are people who are fundamentally damaged—inwardly they feel as if they don’t exist and become alive when they get angry. They’ll keep you on an emotional rollercoaster and you may walk on eggshells to avoid their anger.

How to Protect Your Emotions: Stay calm. Don’t react when your buttons get pushed. Splitters feed off of anger. They respond best to structure and limit setting. If one goes into a rage, tell the person, “I’m leaving until you get calmer. Then we can talk.” Refuse to take sides when he or she tries to turn you against someone else. With family members, it’s best to show a united front and not let a splitter’s venomous opinions poison your relationships.

-- Wed Sep 07, 2011 2:15 am --

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wf-Pfxi1H0A