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when you all knew what was wrong with you how did you find the right way in telling a psychiatrist and asking for help and answering any questions they may have with confidence too. How do you know they are the right ones i want to find trust and empathy in one that can really understand me and not think any small thing is pathetic or just whinging just really be able to me you know.
Show a more of a concerned side then laughs.
How did you say just the symptoms you had, past diagnosis and current situations ?

I've never had a therapist that laughed at me or that I felt couldn't "trust". That is to say I trusted them to be professional. While I liked one of my therapists a lot, they really didn't help me any.

I had confidence in the wrong person and wasted a lot of time. She was really nice, though. I liked her a lot.

The point is, you will click with someone if you like them. On the other hand, you have to do all the work. You know how they say college is like a 1:3 ratio. One hour in class, three hours outside. Therapy is sort of like that. For the little time you put in at the office, you must all the time outside working. If you have questions, look them up. Ask here. Read about your sickness. Learn about it.

Again, though, when you meet the person you like, you will know it.

I found it more helpful to have stable, positive mentors than therapists. Since a core feature of this illness is 'mimicing', it was good to be able to model behaviors I wanted.

Therapists are only guides and good ones are hard to find. Definitely "shop around".

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rebba87 wrote:when you all knew what was wrong with you how did you find the right way in telling a psychiatrist and asking for help

I had to go see my doctor for depression and anxiety, and he helped me get my first appointment with a psych. The psych I saw, after two sessions, actually asked me if I'd ever heard of BPD because she'd noticed it in me.

At your first psych appointment, s/he'll ask you why you're there. That's an opening for you to say what you're concerned about. If you don't feel comfortable saying straight out that you think you have BPD, then you can talk about the symptoms you're having.

rebba87 wrote:answering any questions they may have with confidence too

You know yourself better then anyone else. You'll already know the answers to questions about you. If you don't understand a question, ask for them to re-word it.

rebba87 wrote:How do you know they are the right ones

Firstly the right psych or therapist knows the laws governing their job and sticks to them. They'll tell you about the confidentiality laws at your first appointment, before you start getting into the details. The right psych won't laugh at you, ever.
Next, you'll click with the right psych. There's no point going to see someone that you don't like, or that doesn't have you feeling like they're really listening to you, or that you're just uncomfortable with.
I generally know by the end of the second session if a psych or therapist will be helpful to me. It's useful to trust your intuition.

rebba87 wrote:How did you say just the symptoms you had, past diagnosis and current situations ?

I have a notebook with the details that most psychs and therapists ask me. Usually I hand it to them early in the first appointment, and I try to have a photo-copy for their file as well. You can do the same, or you could list them and use that as a prompt for yourself when talking.

kirayng wrote:I found it more helpful to have stable, positive mentors than therapists. Since a core feature of this illness is 'mimicing', it was good to be able to model behaviors I wanted.

I like to have good role models too. I also like to read autobiographies - learning how others have dealt with this helps me.

I just went through the criteria one by one, and explained how it applied to me. I'm a pretty textbook case, so it was quite easy.

I think it's important........to remember, your dr. is just a dr. He isn't magic, nor infallable.
you really shouldn't care so much, what he or she thinks or doesn't think. You don't have to convince him of anything nor do you have to regard anything he says, as convincing.

I was dxed as psychotic.....Bi-polar.......if i had listened to my drs, i'd of gotten electroshock treatments and anti-psychotic drugs injected directly into my spine.
Really......there is no reason, to assume your doctor is any smarter than your dentist or the guy who does your plumbing.
You don't want to get caught up trying to validate yourself through them.......and their opinion of you or your issues. Take everything they say, with a grain of salt.



I'm not sure how you know if they are good ones or not..........you give them a change or three.....and then decide.
It isn't their job to be your friend.......it's their job to make you think. Not tell you what to think. And not agree or disagree with everything you say.......I mean, you should fail safe enough talking to them.....but not like you go there, to escape from your issues.