BPD Reared its Ugly Head Last Night...

I understand. And if we love someone and we understand them we accept their apology and explanation. But it is a matter of what one should reasonably be expected to deal with and what an individual is personally willing to put up with. I think that equals compatability

I think so too, but I've already ruined a marriage with a "nice guy" and I don't want to ruin a relationship that I am rather happy with.

Some of it comes with realizing that no matter what, NO ONE can be expected, nor should they be exposed, to frequent outbursts of abuse.

I have to take responsibility for my words.

AMP

so cut the sh@t Try brutal honesty with your other and yourself and embrace sincere humility. SINCERE humility, I'm not suggesting you lower yourself

I'm not sure you quite understand, Elizabeth.

Brutal honesty with myself is what keeps me beating myself up, and brutal honesty with him (abusively) is what got me to post this thread.

Sometimes there are other ways to say things. That doesn't mean I had to put down his past and his job.

What is your deal?

AMP

The obvious solution is remove the "abusive" portion of the communications. My deal...

No, I mean, are you BPD? A Non? How long have you been diagnosed? I meant, lol, what is your story.

I went back and read my post, and it sounds so b*tchy! I'm sorry! It came out wrong :0)

AMP

I do not know if I am BPD, I suspect I may be, or that sweet old chestnut "Axis II: Borderline Personality Traits", but I do not want to face it. I admit to being a brat, ADD and generalized gay-ass anxiety. I have read that psychiatrists least like dealing with their BPD's and that they are hardest to treat, one psychiatrist I worked with (professionally) told me they mostly cannot be treated, and anyone who cuts themselves are labed BPD or at least BPD traits on Axis II dx. Although I cut myself, out of curiosity, a few times and I adore the scars I was not a 'cutter', merely a scientist doing research And I love to pardon bitchiness upon request. I very highly value the apology and think it should be given and received freely. It makes me feel better to say it and it makes the recipient feel better to hear it. Humility is a valuable trait...especially coupled with grandiosity

LOL, you're funny, and have a very colorful way of speaking. You'll make an excellent addition to forum :0).

I know what you mean. I was diagnosed with everything under the sun until finally they came to BPD. It was a relief. I was tired of being a psych-mutt. It got tiring.

I'm not a cutter, but I pick my fingers until they bleed. And I pick at my face.

Not very pretty habits.

AMP