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best freind goes nasty...

Postby albert_mistrall » Fri Jul 15, 2011 8:54 am

getting this off my chest ..
well that was abit weerd, my so callled best freind of 10 years turns round on me and starts telling me that i use everyboddy. that im evil and have a black heart and that everyone hates me, that everyone sees through me and has done for years and that everyone is watching me and that i should watch out....


this is the guy that i saw through his depressions, his feers and did my best to help with his problems.
alot of freinds that we share no longer speek to him because he started to go nasty towards them. everything is there fault and not his.

but in my delicate state it quite got to me, i got verry angry and had to go sit down.

why do people do things like this it makes me wonder. im trying not to let it get me questioning my self any more but its hard not to and im shure it will be on my mind for most of the day.

ill get on with my day and life like ushal and he can go hit the drink every day like ushall, it just messes me up a little because he knows what im working through, yet has used every button in the book to upset me.

i guess im better off without peoplein my life like that anyway.

sorry if this is pointless to post, just felt like getting some of it out befor it gives me headaches....
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Re: best freind goes nasty...

Postby Casper » Fri Jul 15, 2011 12:32 pm

Hey, it wasn't pointless. Half of the posts here are us getting s**t off our chests; it's one of the few (if not only) places where we can scream and rant and cry and whatever, and no one else questions it, because the rest of us are doing the exact same thing.

As to your friend...well, I'm not sure. The logical thing to say is "he's probably going through some issues of his own and really needs a friend who can stand by him through all this." That said, if I were in your shoes, I know I couldn't be that friend. I couldn't handle that kind of animosity. I'd cut him off without question or hesitation. If you can hang with him, you're a better man than I, but I certainly won't fault you for doing what I'd do.
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Re: best freind goes nasty...

Postby MissAli » Fri Jul 15, 2011 12:41 pm

Well, here's my take.

I think that this guy must have had a large brain fart of his own, and lashed out at you. I would say it's more than "having a bad day" because it sounds like he's being VERY vindictive. I myself, would not be able to be friends with him again, without a HUGE apology and some good ole time passing by. And a LOT of it.

Reason being, he must already know that you have some paranoia issues (how many of us DON'T?), and was playing on that in order to make YOU feel worse than how he is already feeling.

So, in essence, if he wants to be such a d*ck, then let him. WITHOUT you as his friend. And if he survives his next bout with depression, good for him. But if he comes crawling back to beg your friendship, I'd think twice without getting some major answers on what his motive was.

I hate when people lash out. It just makes us doubt ourselves even more.

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Re: best freind goes nasty...

Postby albert_mistrall » Fri Jul 15, 2011 6:34 pm

thank you for your words, there nice to hear with things like this.

i went to anouther old freind for lunch today, and his words were that he (the one that i fell out with)
is fallng into a deeper hole of his own and that i need to fill my life with good people, so i question it all a little less.

I shall leve him to it and if one day he wishes to make amense i shall consider it at that point, but right now im not going to think of it too much because it makes me question my self even more.

time to have a hot bath, text the girlfreind and mabe have a glass of wine with a film (mabe no wine lol)

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Re: best freind goes nasty...

Postby MissAli » Fri Jul 15, 2011 6:48 pm

[color=#FF0080]Oh hell, Albert, it's Friday. Have a glass of wine.

:0)

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