BPD'ers: With Whom Do You Get Along Best?

Just wondering what other BPD'ers think!

Repost this with a yes or no question, not a A or B question. Or vice versa, if you know what I mean.

betterlatethannever wrote:Repost this with a yes or no question, not a A or B question. Or vice versa, if you know what I mean.

No, not sure I know what you mean, but I will try a different approach.

You had a "non or BPD" question but the answers were "yes or no", but which does "yes" mean? It wasn't answerable.

You fixed it, so never mind!

I think thats a great question. Will be interesting to see all of the results.

Generally I get along the best with anyone who has a mental illness. Most people with mental illnesses can relate at least somewhat to what you are diagnosed with.

Beautiful_Disaster wrote:I think thats a great question. Will be interesting to see all of the results.

I agree. I can't wait to see!

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Lollirot wrote:Generally I get along the best with anyone who has a mental illness. Most people with mental illnesses can relate at least somewhat to what you are diagnosed with.

I have to say that is my answer, too. I think it does depend on the person's personality somewhat. But mostly I'm discovering that I am ABSOLUTELY and TOTALLY in love with all mentally ill people. I relate to them, no matter what their illness. May sound corny what I said, but so what, right? LOL

I voted for personality. Cause tho I can relate, sympathise and empathise with mental illness, there are people I know realtime who have mental illnesses and if i am totally honest I think some of them are great, others I can't stand. That's a personality thing. I think it takes more of life - and more open-mindedness for people without mental illness to be willing to accept and try to understand how hard it can really be to deal with mental health problems. In some ways people with MH issues can be more childlike than others and in other ways, it can make you have to grow up a lot faster too. There are people I get on with who don't have mental health issues, but I wouldn't tend to share my experience of mental health problems with them too much - or at least not from a personal perspective - cause they tend to feel sorry for people rather than understand, when the truth is mental health problems can affect anyone, but until you get them, most people just think it won't happen to them.

katana wrote:I voted for personality. Cause tho I can relate, sympathise and empathise with mental illness, there are people I know realtime who have mental illnesses and if i am totally honest I think some of them are great, others I can't stand. That's a personality thing. I think it takes more of life - and more open-mindedness for people without mental illness to be willing to accept and try to understand how hard it can really be to deal with mental health problems. In some ways people with MH issues can be more childlike than others and in other ways, it can make you have to grow up a lot faster too. There are people I get on with who don't have mental health issues, but I wouldn't tend to share my experience of mental health problems with them too much - or at least not from a personal perspective - cause they tend to feel sorry for people rather than understand, when the truth is mental health problems can affect anyone, but until you get them, most people just think it won't happen to them.

I agree. I vote both for others with mental health issues and depends on personality. But I don't think I can vote on my own poll (lol) so I just posted it.

I will say I agree with what you say. It does take a special type of person, without mental illness, to really understand and empathize and maybe feel bad for you but not try to drown you in pity. I agree, too, that some people will kind of "make fun" of people with MH problems because they didn't think they could ever have one. It takes a lot of effort to see it in yourself (anyone, not you, lol). I've seen that a lot from people with PTSD that showed up in my anger management class. They never thought it could happen to them and then suddenly they understand. I've seen them apologize for ever thinking bad things about people with mental illness.

I guess the challenge is to treat it like anything else - like if someone is feeling depressed instead of treating their depression as some sort of oddity they are almost afraid of to think of the worst time in their life, like when a parent, child, or husband/wife has died, and imagine that is a little like how this person is feeling all the time... i guess that's why it tends to take time for people to be able to do that.

I know exactly what you mean about the pity thing, empathy is something positive about people connecting and understanding each other, pity is something else and i dont think its really positive or helpful for anyone, if anything i think it can make people feel worse about themselves cause that's the message it gives them.

i got told i'd benefit from anger management early this year, but that i had to confess to something to be eligible lol

i think when people find themselves with mental health problems they realise people with them are still like everyone else, the way breaking a leg doesn't make you suddenly belong to a different species or something, even tho people who have never broken a bone can't really imagine what it feels like.