BPD'ers: With Whom Do You Get Along Best?

katana wrote:I guess the challenge is to treat it like anything else - like if someone is feeling depressed instead of treating their depression as some sort of oddity they are almost afraid of to think of the worst time in their life, like when a parent, child, or husband/wife has died, and imagine that is a little like how this person is feeling all the time... i guess that's why it tends to take time for people to be able to do that.

I know exactly what you mean about the pity thing, empathy is something positive about people connecting and understanding each other, pity is something else and i dont think its really positive or helpful for anyone, if anything i think it can make people feel worse about themselves cause that's the message it gives them.

i got told i'd benefit from anger management early this year, but that i had to confess to something to be eligible lol

i think when people find themselves with mental health problems they realise people with them are still like everyone else, the way breaking a leg doesn't make you suddenly belong to a different species or something, even tho people who have never broken a bone can't really imagine what it feels like.

anxiousbp wrote:I also voted for personality. My mother has a mental illness and to be honest i don't get along with her even the slightest. And my sisters is so confusing that I just ignore it most the time.

I think its about the person and how they treat YOU, and react to you. And some non bpd's react just fine if their personality can handle it.

SuchIsLife91 wrote:I voted for someone with a mental illness, only because i feel more comfortable talking about my own illnesses with them, because they are more understanding (generally). However, i don't really 'get along' with anyone, i'm a loner. Not at all good at making/ maintaining friends.

My best friend through primary school had aspergers syndrome, and he was awesome, and in many ways i could relate to him. A paranoid/borderline personality vs aspergers personality seemed to contrast quite badly though and in the end we were too much for each other.

SuchIsLife91 wrote:My best friend through primary school had aspergers syndrome, and he was awesome, and in many ways i could relate to him. A paranoid/borderline personality vs aspergers personality seemed to contrast quite badly though and in the end we were too much for each other.

katana wrote:I had friends at primary school, some people didn't like me, cause i guess they saw me as a bit of a drama queen cause i wasn't exactly emotionally regulated, (would get upset over things and go a bit up the wall and scream my head off ) and i was always getting into trouble too, to the point it was just a running joke. I could make friends with any kid i'd just met really easily but sustaining friendships was a lot harder. My best friend at primary school was a really emotionally healthy normal kid with 2 really nice parents. we kept in touch after going to secondary school, and i tried running after her ex cause i thought it was OK cause they'd split up. DOH! I realise now of course it was not ok for her, of course he wasn't interested in me, i don't think that was really surprising! lol
i had friends, - i think most of them didn't really get me - but kinda lost touch with them all when i ended up in the psych ward.

crimsonandclover wrote:Anyone who won't leave me lol