Blacklisting the world...

I posted my excitement of getting a phone call from my fiance yesterday. I was so excited and shared it with all the others who I have been talking to about him... No one responded. =/ Then I asked on two different forums how likely it would be for him to be discharged from boot camp because of his fractured shins. He just wants to come home... The responses I got were very unkind...

So yeah... now I feel like everyone is judging me... I feel like they're purposely either not responding to me, or they're just being unkind... And then, his mother who has been there for me this whole time has barely talked to me since yesterday. I feel like she resents me now because he sent me 2 letters and talked to me longer on the phone, and he didn't send her any letters, and barely had time to talk to her because they were rushing him off the phone... I feel like she doesn't like me now...

I feel awful...

I just want to say "###$ it and ###$ you" and leave the sites that were supposed to be for support while he's in boot camp. I'm never going to talk to the woman who called him "scum under her boot" all because he'd rather be with me... be with family... than try and stay in the Navy and be miserable and away from us... I'm tired of feeling bad... I'm tired of people being douche-weasels... I am just saying "screw it all" and not even going to try and get advice anymore... Meh....

On top of all that... I lost another friend because he got all uppity about me buying a frickin' dress when I'm on SSI. wtf? So I can't buy anything for myself because it's "tax dollars" and uncool? ... Ugh.. I booted him out of my life.. Dun need that crap. And then another friend got drunk the other night and was massively hitting on me through text, but hasn't talked to me since. So I asked why not and he said he's busy.... I get the feeling that's not exactly the truth. Meh... w/e I hate people.. Should've known they'd all let me down anyway.

God, the entire concept of the military gives me chills. I feel so bad for anyone that wants to get out or whose loved ones want them out. I stupidly enlisted in late 2006 and I was suicidal. Yet, those scumbags mocked me and took their sweet time discharging me. It's government sanctioned imprisonment. It really is.

I'm sorry you're going through an issue with your spouse and the military. I'm new here, so I don't know what the true story is. I wish I could help every single person get discharged.

Are you going through the case of Gung-Ho military supporting A-holes trying to say getting out of the military is some disgrace? Don't want to jump to conclusions, but I've read that a lot online. Brain-washed scumbags with no empathy is what I think they are. Anyone in the military is treated like dirt. They don't owe judgemental assholes a thing. In fact, I say, anyone that wants out owes it to themselves to do everything they can to get out.

I pretty much dislike the whole world and don't mind keeping my distance. The less interaction with people I have, the less chance of being let down and getting emotionally revved up. I don't have any friends and I don't even care. I know I'm better off. The times I've had friends, they let me down and were selfish scum. You sound like you're in the same boat.

BPDSufferer wrote:God, the entire concept of the military gives me chills. I feel so bad for anyone that wants to get out or whose loved ones want them out. I stupidly enlisted in late 2006 and I was suicidal. Yet, those scumbags mocked me and took their sweet time discharging me. It's government sanctioned imprisonment. It really is.

I'm sorry you're going through an issue with your spouse and the military. I'm new here, so I don't know what the true story is. I wish I could help every single person get discharged.

Are you going through the case of Gung-Ho military supporting A-holes trying to say getting out of the military is some disgrace? Don't want to jump to conclusions, but I've read that a lot online. Brain-washed scumbags with no empathy is what I think they are. Anyone in the military is treated like dirt. They don't owe judgemental assholes a thing. In fact, I say, you owe it to yourself to get out if you can.

I pretty much dislike the whole world and don't mind keeping my distance. The less interaction with people I have, the less chance of being let down and getting emotionally revved up. I don't have any friends and I don't even care. I know I'm better off. The times I've had friends, they let me down and were selfish scum. You sound like you're in the same boat.

Yes! It's those gung-ho people! They say that they could never respect someone who weenies out and breaks their commitment. Well, if the military would give all the information upfront, then my fiance and I wouldn't be in this mess! They obviously don't tell you all the bad things 'cause then you wouldn't sign the papers. He values family most right now. He misses my daughter. She was 4 months old when he left. They keep trying to tell me to push him to stay in, 'cause he needs to man up and stop whining. I'm like... uh.... so he should be miserable for 6 years because YOU think he is being a pansy and just giving up? He's not giving up because it's hard, he wants to be discharged because his family is the most important thing to him. I don't understand what is so awful about that!!

.... ugh. I'm sorry you had to go through that with them. He, I believe, is still being drilled into, even when stuck on crutches for the fractures. They call him broken... They tell him that I'm sleeping with other men while he's gone... It's awful. I can't believe they're allowed to really damage someone that way... I can understand breaking them so that they bond with their divisions and all that... but some things I've heard they've said are just too far...

Squeekerz wrote:

BPDSufferer wrote:God, the entire concept of the military gives me chills. I feel so bad for anyone that wants to get out or whose loved ones want them out. I stupidly enlisted in late 2006 and I was suicidal. Yet, those scumbags mocked me and took their sweet time discharging me. It's government sanctioned imprisonment. It really is.

I'm sorry you're going through an issue with your spouse and the military. I'm new here, so I don't know what the true story is. I wish I could help every single person get discharged.

Are you going through the case of Gung-Ho military supporting A-holes trying to say getting out of the military is some disgrace? Don't want to jump to conclusions, but I've read that a lot online. Brain-washed scumbags with no empathy is what I think they are. Anyone in the military is treated like dirt. They don't owe judgemental assholes a thing. In fact, I say, you owe it to yourself to get out if you can.

I pretty much dislike the whole world and don't mind keeping my distance. The less interaction with people I have, the less chance of being let down and getting emotionally revved up. I don't have any friends and I don't even care. I know I'm better off. The times I've had friends, they let me down and were selfish scum. You sound like you're in the same boat.

Yes! It's those gung-ho people! They say that they could never respect someone who weenies out and breaks their commitment. Well, if the military would give all the information upfront, then my fiance and I wouldn't be in this mess! They obviously don't tell you all the bad things 'cause then you wouldn't sign the papers. He values family most right now. He misses my daughter. She was 4 months old when he left. They keep trying to tell me to push him to stay in, 'cause he needs to man up and stop whining. I'm like... uh.... so he should be miserable for 6 years because YOU think he is being a pansy and just giving up? He's not giving up because it's hard, he wants to be discharged because his family is the most important thing to him. I don't understand what is so awful about that!!

.... ugh. I'm sorry you had to go through that with them. He, I believe, is still being drilled into, even when stuck on crutches for the fractures. They call him broken... They tell him that I'm sleeping with other men while he's gone... It's awful. I can't believe they're allowed to really damage someone that way... I can understand breaking them so that they bond with their divisions and all that... but some things I've heard they've said are just too far...

It breaks my heart hearing stories of people trapped in the military when they want out. I know it has a selfish element to it, since I had that experience. But I truly wouldn't wish that upon anyone or their loved ones. The feeling of isolation and emptiness has to be quite overwhelming to you, having a loved one going through that.

Funny story now that I can look back on it. When I was going through all sorts of suicidal thoughts and was needing out of there, they called my girlfriend to try and talk me into staying. After the conversation, the First Sergeant was like "That's a good girl you have there." I'm like, "Yeah, so good that I found out she cheated on me for years." I knew their entire game was getting people to stay at all costs. So, being able to throw curveballs at them like that felt good.


I definitely would say to not communicate with those pro-military types. They are terribly brain-washed and have no understanding that there are people out there that truly cannot and do not want to give up their freedom to a government that would treat them so badly in the first place. They'll also give you mis-information, such as he'll get a dishonorable and all sorts of crap. They are idiots and don't know what they are talking about.

BPDSufferer wrote:
It breaks my heart hearing stories of people trapped in the military when they want out. I know it has a selfish element to it, since I had that experience. But I truly wouldn't wish that upon anyone or their loved ones. The feeling of isolation and emptiness has to be quite overwhelming to you, having a loved one going through that.

I definitely would say to not communicate with those pro-military types. They are terribly brain-washed and have no understanding that there are people out there that truly cannot and do not want to give up their freedom to a government that would treat them so badly in the first place. They'll also give you mis-information, such as he'll get a dishonorable and all sorts of crap. They are idiots and don't know what they are talking about.

He's trying to get a medical discharge since his complete healing time would take 2 months or more. He was last in his division physically,and wasn't even halfway through basic training before he was stuck in RCU.... so maybe they'll discharge him without a huge fight... but he said it could take anywhere from 3 weeks to 3 months depending on how long they want to draw it out.

I was shocked when someone said "I hope he does get discharged. He should just tell them he's gay. I wouldn't want him serving next to my son." ... I'm like... wtf? People are dicks.

Squeekerz wrote:

BPDSufferer wrote:
It breaks my heart hearing stories of people trapped in the military when they want out. I know it has a selfish element to it, since I had that experience. But I truly wouldn't wish that upon anyone or their loved ones. The feeling of isolation and emptiness has to be quite overwhelming to you, having a loved one going through that.

I definitely would say to not communicate with those pro-military types. They are terribly brain-washed and have no understanding that there are people out there that truly cannot and do not want to give up their freedom to a government that would treat them so badly in the first place. They'll also give you mis-information, such as he'll get a dishonorable and all sorts of crap. They are idiots and don't know what they are talking about.

He's trying to get a medical discharge since his complete healing time would take 2 months or more. He was last in his division physically,and wasn't even halfway through basic training before he was stuck in RCU.... so maybe they'll discharge him without a huge fight... but he said it could take anywhere from 3 weeks to 3 months depending on how long they want to draw it out.

I was shocked when someone said "I hope he does get discharged. He should just tell them he's gay. I wouldn't want him serving next to my son." ... I'm like... wtf? People are dicks.

You should tell that stupid #####& that "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" is being repealed and that gays can serve. Plus, that wouldn't work anyways. If they knew what they were talking about, they should at least know that. Man, I'd love to knock the teeth out of that person that messaged you that. Idiots.

I got an OK understanding of his situation. Basically, he's hurt and wants out. They trying to talk him into staying and $#%^ like that? Was he told about his options?

I know sometimes the military will just discharge, since they don't want to bother paying for someone in training. But yeah, they hold the keys and can be dickheads. It's an awful feeling to not know. It took me a little over a month to get discharged after I was crying nonstop and attempting suicide. Basically, I started distracting the unit for attention, since I was needing out ASAP. They didn't care.