The Borderline Eyes?

ok so i just started DBT for adolecents and I noticed everyone there has these different eyes... there usually really pretty and seem to look through your soul? Does anyone else notice that BPD have unique eyes?

I've never met another BPD'er in person (as far as I know), but will be commencing group DBT in the next few months.

I'll let you know, however I can't see how. Maybe you're looking too much into it

I'd agree about that from what i know of BPDs. except me i dont know, i don't know how often i manage to look at anyone like that, because to look into someone else's soul, you have to really look into their eyes, and let them look into your soul, even if you're only saying it with your eyes. i built a lot of barriers... letting people in like that terrifies me.

yeah katana, you probably have those anxious eyes! :p

yes. I'd agree. Eyes reflect what is happening in the brain and so for that reason I'd say there is a correlation between personality and what the eyes look like. Intense eyes, vacant eyes - signs of weird stuff going on in the personality. And borderlines do go through a lot of crap, so it's no wonder they pick up on things about people that others don't.

I agree for the most part. I see having BPD as having a large radar for other people's emotions, I notice them too much, I read people well even if I hardly know them. My eye contact is too intense sometimes. It's like the opposite problem of autism, they don't make eye contact and they can't read other people's emotions or reactions at all.

yeah exactly I think BPD is made up of 4 sub genres...
Avoidant
Impulsive/Obsessive Compulsive
Self-destructive
Dependent

and maybe Narcistic?

Anyways I think that each borderline is different in this way, sometimes being stronger in different sub-genres.

ajrocker8 wrote:My eye contact is too intense sometimes.

Wow I read this and started to reflect on a conversation I had with someone I met recently. Looking back at the conversation I can see myself intensely looking into their eyes with much interest, with well maybe and little desire

Thinking about it I seem to do that a lot, I though I just like eye contact but maybe it's my way of reading them.

ajrocker8 wrote:I agree for the most part. I see having BPD as having a large radar for other people's emotions, I notice them too much, I read people well even if I hardly know them. My eye contact is too intense sometimes. It's like the opposite problem of autism, they don't make eye contact and they can't read other people's emotions or reactions at all.

yes. exactly this. I've been told i stare too long as well and that i look like i'm flirting with my eyes and I don't even know what people mean. haha.

I look at people too much I think. I can't help it. I love my eyes though, when I really want to communicate with someone at a deep level I use my eyes. They either blush and look away or they seem to get transfixed and make intense eye contact just like me and just stare at me.