feeling like a kid helping with emotions.

just wondered, ive been trying to help my self learn to feel my emotions.
im ushaly so locked up as an adult that i end up feeling empty or depersonalized or somthing else.
but when i let go and feel what im feeling, i feel like a kid and it feels so nice.
warm, comfatable, cozy and safe.

i act abit like a kid too, its not so much that im a diferent person, its more like me without the hard shell.
if only it was aceptable to be like this all the time.
much love x

(might sound nuts but i dont care

Hi, albert_mistrall! Maybe you could give this kid some love and nurturing. Treat yourself to doing stuff that you'd like your inner child to do and remind yourself that you deserve to be loved and you deserved it as a kid too. Do you do fun stuff, let yourself be free and play a little?

I used to feel this way too, I think it is mainly having to do with bottling up our emotions and not letting them out. I only recently realised this having been going to a 12-step program each week. Basically you need to be honest with others in terms of how you feel etc. but more importantly honest with yourself. You will find people that will support you, others may or may not, if they don't then doesn't matter. What matters is you being able to live a fulfilling and happy life, because you deserve it.

I haven't done DBT but being self-aware of the emotion you are experiencing definitely helps, identifying it and knowing why you feel this way. Then allow yourself to feel it and accept it. Also express it openly so that you can let it out constructively, talk to someone about it and be honest with how you feel, rather than leaving it in as it inevitably leads to self-destruction.

I'm still learning about this but I definitely feel a lot better than before, feels like a gigantic weight has been lifted off me and I can finally be who I want to be. It actually feels really really good, so good it will make you cry with joy

albert_mistrall wrote:just wondered, ive been trying to help my self learn to feel my emotions.
im ushaly so locked up as an adult that i end up feeling empty or depersonalized or somthing else.
but when i let go and feel what im feeling, i feel like a kid and it feels so nice.
warm, comfatable, cozy and safe.

i act abit like a kid too, its not so much that im a diferent person, its more like me without the hard shell.
if only it was aceptable to be like this all the time.
much love x

(might sound nuts but i dont care

You dont sound nuts at all!
Im still pretty young (20), but I totally act kidlike when Im being carefree and having fun (as in NOT when Im depressed or stressed). Im super playful, like I move a lot and laugh and joke... Haha :p I do a bunch of cute $#%^ thats usually random. Im a lot more confident when Im in that mindset.
I feel like my most normal/comfortable when Im being silly like that .

thankyou so much for your comments, i realy needed to hear them today.
i dont go out anymore realy, its so hard to hold my self together atm.

had a realy bad day today, and your posts helped me let out abit of emotion when i needed to.
i never get angry, i just get sad

much love x

albert_mistrall wrote:thankyou so much for your comments, i realy needed to hear them today.
i dont go out anymore realy, its so hard to hold my self together atm.

had a realy bad day today, and your posts helped me let out abit of emotion when i needed to.
i never get angry, i just get sad

much love x

Turn that frown upside down! (: ((albert))
It feels good to let go of built up emotions.

x Sing

How are you doing, albert_mistrall?

had a few realy rough days to be honist, but im trying to relax atm.
i think sometimes people can try to be too strong when all you need to do is learn to accept stuff rather than block it out.
i think thats were alot of the problems come from, that way of ignoring thoughts and feelings that eventualy build up and end up overloading in one way or anouther.
hence why alot of zen stuff works, so today i am learning to accept, process and feel my thoughts and emotions. its tough and i hope its a good way to start the healing process. either that or im just washed out from the past few days lol x

I think that processing your feelings is healthy too and it's probably a good idea. It's probably good to have someone like a therapist to support you through it too.

i think thats a good idea, im still waiting for the therepist, she sead it would be in 2 months that was in december, so i guess that mabe she changed her mind or that shes just realy bussy. ill find out.