ENOUGH with the ^&%^ing questions!!!

I've been having a serious problem the last few weeks. Whenever people ask me something I get VERY angry and attack them. I feel attacked and as if they are trying to intrude on my privacy. For example.. If someone asks me "Where are you going?" I will lose it!! I scream.. "It's none of your business!! Why do you need to know?" I've had this problem mildly for as long as I can remember but it's getting so bad now. I can't have simple conversations anymore. Actually.. I don't even want to. My Mom has always asked me questions to collect information and use it against me or to exaggerate it into a lie so I think that may be the root of the problem. I used to only rage on her when she'd ask me something but now it's other people as well. I have talked to her about this.. but it's no use. She did it again today.

I find myself ready to explode at every question. My fiance's father tends to ask a lot of questions. I really want to scream "Leave me alone!!!" every time he asks me something. I do go in and out of the house a lot. I'm always busy doing something so when I come and go he asks where I'm going. Wtf? I'm not his kid, nor have I ever caused him any kind of problem or been a pest of any sort. Lately when he asks me where I'm going I tell him "I don't know." I cannot give a real answer because I feel attacked and panic. I don't understand why people can't leave me alone. I don't ask anyone what they're doing or where they're going. Why can't they have the same respect???

It's gone a step farther now and I'm doing it to strangers too. In stores, if someone asks me a question I rudely answer them and avoid all eye contact and try get out as fast as I can.

Does anyone else have this issue? It's been making things real difficult because people are getting mad at me for it. It's HORRIBLE early on in the day.. by night time I tend to chill out a bit and not mind as much.

How can I just stop this or make people understand that they really are hurting me and upsetting me by asking something simple?

Totally.

I never ask other people questions because I don't really care about their life. Unless I like them you know? Like my friends or people who I think are neat. But even than not so much. But strangers, friends of friends, Parents friends really "normal people" I hate it!!! I feel like they have no right to ask me anything because I don't know them or care about them. Like how dare you? You know? I get that it is totally irrational but it's how I feel. Oh ya and if I have no choice but to answer them/talk to them I will lie about everything.

Wow! It's nice to know I'm not the only one! You said it perfectly.. "How dare you!?" That's how I'm always feeling. Haha.. I do tend to lie when I'm forced to answer things that I don't want to talk about. It's blatantly obvious too. My Mom had asked me if my fiance went to work.. I said " I don't know." which was clearly not true cuz I had just phoned him lol. Or the best is " What did you have for supper?" And I say.. "I don't know." Lol I'm def not condoning lying but it does help me not explode I guess. I can't find the time or need to care about anything that isn't directly affecting me so I can't understand the "small talk" others try to make with me.

it's likely that people asking questions are just making conversation.. they probably don't care about the answer you give them and will forget 5 minutes later what it was. But for most of us it is rude to not speak to others when they are the only one around, and questions form half a conversation.

How can I just stop this or make people understand that they really are hurting me and upsetting me by asking something simple?

Well 1. it's your problem.........not other people's

2. even if it wasn't your problem and it were the problem of others........they wouldn't care anyways and would still act how they're going to act anyways.........so you might aswell agree with my first point, as it's the only way you can help yourself here.



so as it's your problem........stop getting mad at other people. It's your problem.

You wouldn't punch someone in the face and then get mad at them for getting in the way of your fist.

Realise when you're mad.......you're not mad about the questions, you're mad about feeling like a child. You're mad about feeling like someone is going to hurt you.........you're mad about whatever the fcku it is that you're mad about. (i don't know)


Everytime you snap at people or get all pissy...........realise that it's not acceptable. Do what you can to change it.

I promise you.......if everytime you snapped at one of these people, if they hit you in the head with a hammer, you'd stop snapping at people mighty fast.

The thing is.........you need to be that hammer and hit yourself in the head. Better yet, you need to see that hammer coming and move out of the way.


If this really is a problem for you.........then give it the attention it requires. *which is hard obviously or else you'd of been done with it by now


BTW, what are you doing up at this hour?

Murderface wrote:it's likely that people asking questions are just making conversation.. they probably don't care about the answer you give them and will forget 5 minutes later what it was. But for most of us it is rude to not speak to others when they are the only one around, and questions form half a conversation.

Yea, that does make sense. I can understand that with strangers. But, I've told my mother a million times to please not ask me questions. She always agrees and then does it anyway. ARGH!

Twistedmister wrote:

How can I just stop this or make people understand that they really are hurting me and upsetting me by asking something simple?

Well 1. it's your problem.........not other people's

2. even if it wasn't your problem and it were the problem of others........they wouldn't care anyways and would still act how they're going to act anyways.........so you might aswell agree with my first point, as it's the only way you can help yourself here.



so as it's your problem........stop getting mad at other people. It's your problem.

You wouldn't punch someone in the face and then get mad at them for getting in the way of your fist.

Realise when you're mad.......you're not mad about the questions, you're mad about feeling like a child. You're mad about feeling like someone is going to hurt you.........you're mad about whatever the fcku it is that you're mad about. (i don't know)


Everytime you snap at people or get all pissy...........realise that it's not acceptable. Do what you can to change it.

I promise you.......if everytime you snapped at one of these people, if they hit you in the head with a hammer, you'd stop snapping at people mighty fast.

The thing is.........you need to be that hammer and hit yourself in the head. Better yet, you need to see that hammer coming and move out of the way.


If this really is a problem for you.........then give it the attention it requires. *which is hard obviously or else you'd of been done with it by now


BTW, what are you doing up at this hour?

Yes, it is my problem. I wish I knew how to just cut the $#%^ and get over it. I try.. I can stay calm for maybe 2 questions and then I get so overwhelmed.

I do feel like a child. My responses are like a frustrated child having a tantrum.

Haha.. I'm not sure what timezone you are in but it wasn't late here.