BPD and children **TRIGGER WARNING**

Digibitz wrote:My point is, if you have BPD , there are no guarantees , there is no permanent security.
The most stable, loving, people with BPD can (and sometimes do) turn and throw it all away in an instant.
My wife, too , would have been angry with anyone who suggested she could do such a thing.

Oh, I get your point.. My point is.. everything you just wrote above is also applicable to nons, without mental illness.

So your situation is tragic, but we all have the ability to make poor choices, and in the process throw it all away. I'll grant you people with bpd probably have a higher rate of this, but it still applies to nons as well..

I am sorry for both you and your children.. Take care -cbox

Digitbitz-

I am very sorry for your deep pain. I cannot imagine what your situation is like for you and your son right now, as I am not living it. But I do want you to know that my heart goes out to you.

On the other hand, you are posting with other BPDs present, and maybe asking for some insight into how this could happen, or perhaps maybe just venting without lumping all BPD sufferers together may be more conducive to a discussion on this topic.

*hugs*

AMP

cboxpalace wrote: Oh, I get your point.. My point is.. everything you just wrote above is also applicable to nons, without mental illness.

No, you don't , quite, because the fact is that the rate of suicide in BPDs is more than 50 times the rate of suicide in the general population.

Anyway, enough. As MissAli, pointed out, this conversation is only safe for nons.

Thank you all for your sympathy and understanding. It is most appreciated.

Digbitz Your post did not only harm BPDs. It did something else - it HELPED me tremendously. My wife suffered from BPD and also ended her life recently, leaving me and our two children behind. I am amazed to see you post with such strength and respond with such mental agility. I see hope in my life and future. I thought i was alone in a dark and cold place where God abandons his children. I felt so guilty, I thought it was all my fault. I have done my research and found some answers but now i read about you, a living example of what is possible. Thank you so much you have given me something to look forward to. I am sorry for our losses, thank you so much and God bless you and your family.

Jesus Christ!

...All of this makes me feel so sad. I came here today not in a horrible mood for once, seeking to help someone else who may be feeling the pain I am (and most of us are) so familiar with.

I opened this thread because I am pregnant and terrified of being a bad mom. The title made me think I could relate to you, maybe.

Now I am useless and exhausted.

I am crying now for you, for your pain, for your child, for your wife, for your family, and for everyone who has been hurt by your voice.

This is too much.

-- Fri Nov 08, 2013 1:27 pm --

I'm sorry. Obviously you're right... I will speak for myself. Everything is about me. I just took your very painful situation and mad It about me. I didn't mean to. I'm sorry.