when do i tell him about my diagnosis?

ive been dating my boyfriend for 3.5 months now, and he knows that i have a mental illness but i havent disclosed which exact one.
and oddly enough, this is the first time that ive ever been afraid of someones reaction to hearing i have BPD... knowing there are a lot of stigmas around the title.

as of two weeks ago i just moved 2.5 hours away from my boyfriend to go to college, which makes our relationship hard... and i feel that maybe it would be a good time to tell him that i have, er, emotional problems... but i dont want to scare him away.
the thing is, is i know im probably over-exaggerating on how he will react... because up to this point he probably thinks im totally "normal", he doesnt know the things that go on inside this head of mine sometimes lol.

any advice or own personal experiences would be appreciated.

Well I cant say if you should do or not..

But in my experiences I have never had a boyfriend get scared away because of it. I think most of them had no idea what it was to be honest.

I always looked at it as a way to work out if my boyfriend was a douche because if was a douche than he wouldnt accept it so I could move on. (Though I never tried that in practice.)

I’m not sure if there is a right or wrong time to disclose. It might depend on the people involved, where you’re at in your relationship and what kind of person he is. I certainly think you can pile on too much too quickly. I also think you’ve done your due diligence by letting him know that you have a mental illness of some kind, so he’s not completely unprepared.

I think you just have to gauge whether now is the right time or not. If it’s starting to get serious and you think it would be helpful, I can see how disclosing your DX would be beneficial. I would find some middle of the road reading material regarding BPD and say if you’re interested in learning more about what I’m struggling with you can read this. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of the label or act as though you’re telling him you have cancer or something. The more matter of fact you are, the less likely it will be to concern him.

As a non my ex being honest and forthcoming about her diagnosis would be music to my ears.. I would admire her so much for being brave and getting to the core of what troubled her. Not sure if her is like me, but I would think most people would be supportive, especially with a person who recognized something in their lives, sought a diagnosis, and was/is as proactive as you are/have been.. Good luck to you, if he is even the slightest bit understanding he will be there for you 100 %, if not my opinion is there is something about him that is not normal, and maybe he is the one who is not worth the trouble.. Good luck, but I think it will work out just fine.. Study, and get good grades in college : )