Adult Relationships with PD

This is a question that encompasses all area of personality disorders and mental health.

What is a healthy adult relationship? (By and large) This is a specific dilemma for me and a lot of people I've noticed being overrun by that hungry internal child's need for love, yet pushing people away with their sheer neediness. How can I keep boundaries between myself and others and still get the love I so desperately need?

A diagram or flowchart would be best.

<Interesting>---<likable>----< Boundaries(What's a boundary?> ---- emotional autonomy?(Space) ---- room to foster(Too complex to define in finite terms. List common variables blow) --- equals friend?

Does that sound about right to anybody well-versed in the delicate dance of adult relationships? Obviously, Im not going to come across the formula to friendship on this site. It's merely a signpost to help people get back on track. Anybody with a non-PD should hop in too, that way we can have a control group and this can be scientific. Who needs doctors? We can be our own saviors!