BPD and / or Depression

Hi Everybody

Recently I have been seeing a Psychologist regarding the breakup with my girlfriend.
Due to the way the rlationship was, Idiolization, clingy, could not get enough of me, asking me constantly, even after a week of knowing her, if I loved her, then after some time together I finally told her I loved her and she would not believe me, sometimes when I said I loved her she would say she hated me, other times she ask how do you love me, 100% or just a little bit, she said she was falling in love then said the ''strange'' feeling she was having scared her, I have never known anybody thats falling in love call it a strange feeling.

Because of this the Psychologist put it down to Borderline Personality Disorder. We broke up 2 months ago and although I have done everything I can do try and talk to her and fix the relationship she refuses to speak, refuses to answer my calls my emails and my messages. I have not had one single word from her in 2 months.

I was close to her place last week and thought I wil just knock on the door and hopefully she will open it. She came to the door but just looked through the side window, she looked terrible as though she had not slept for a week, maybe she had been dozing in the chair, I dont know but it was only 9.30pm, pssible I guess.

She was trying to say something through the glass and I could not hear her, after she said whatever it was she walked away and turned all the lights off. I wanted to give her the flowers I had in my hand, her bedroom window is next to the door, I stood there and just said I hope you are ok, I dont want to come in I just want to give you something. Suddenly she spoke, she was standing in the dark room by the open window, I could not see in but of course she could see out, she said she was ok and for me not to worry about her, I asked her to come to the door so I could give her something, she said she could not see my face and I could not see her like this. She seemed very upset and her voice was very low, because of the noise of the cars on the road I could not tell if she was actually crying or if not she was very close to it, she closed the window and walked away. I left the flowers there and left. I still have not heard one single word from her.

After telling the Psychologist of this behaviour she has now told me that maybe my girlfriend has severe depression with a mild Borderline issue. Is this possible?

The last day I saw her everything appeared to be ok, suddenly basically overnight she decided she did not want to see me anymore.

We had begun to get close and she knew I was having deep feelings for her, I am wondering if she has had fear of engulfment or just relationship fears, I am so confused as to why she just changed overnight and will not answer me or speak to me.

Any help here is much appreciated
Matt

Honestly, my first thought was that you're being creepy.

If she didn't want to talk to you for two MONTHS, it's time to let go. Seriously. Don't go to her house, she doesn't want to see you. Don't bring her flowers. Stop calling her or sending her messages. I don't know who broke up with whom, but it's time to move on and leave the poor girl alone.

Pairou wrote:Honestly, my first thought was that you're being creepy.

If she didn't want to talk to you for two MONTHS, it's time to let go. Seriously. Don't go to her house, she doesn't want to see you. Don't bring her flowers. Stop calling her or sending her messages. I don't know who broke up with whom, but it's time to move on and leave the poor girl alone.

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