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What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby freshcutgrass » Sat Mar 13, 2010 3:50 am

I was hanging out with my two nephews today ( 3 & 6 ), and one of the things they always make me do is chase them and tickle them. They love it. The screeching & howling is annoying, but it's kinda fun doing it to them too. :lol:

And then I got thinking...what the hell is this business about tickling all about? Why do we do anything to avoid it, yet laugh like hell when it's being done to us? Sometimes we ask for it...sometimes we don't, but even then, we don't feel like we've been violated afterwards even though it was done to us against our will. Even if you feel annoyed afterwards, you don't hold it against the person because you know you enjoyed it on some level. And why do we like to do it to people...especially against their will? And why don't we feel bad doing it?

Yes...I have a point....

We know laughter is good for us. But when you're depressed, stressed out or very anxious, it's very hard to find enough humour in things to laugh. But being tickled creates uncontrollable laughter, and that laughter is still going to produce all those yummy, good chemicals in our bodies whether we want to or not.

So...Tickle Therapy? It's free...it's harmless. It just requires a tickler, as unfortunately, you can't tickle yourself. Anybody ever tried it as a way to reduce stress, anxiety or depression? Or is it the stupidest thing you ever heard?

Here's a blurb I copied from Googling the topic...


Can Tickling Dramatically Improve Your Health?

Is Nature wasteful or thrifty? Evolution uses the same structures by Adaptation for human survival over the millennia. You read that fish gills evolved into the human face and neck, while dinosaurs with tiny feathers evolved into present day birds.

Is laughter just a waste of time? How about tickling?

Fact: six (6) year-olds laugh on an average of 300 times daily

Fact: fourteen (14) year olds
laugh an average of 160 times daily.

Fact: adults – twenty-five (25) year olds to senior citizens - laugh on an average of
only 17 times daily.

So What

Maybe human adults have less to smile and laugh about with 10% unemployment,
the highest rate of foreclosures and bankruptcies since the 1930s? Nyet, nada, negative: smiling and laughing is part of our human nature and instinctual.

Humans, chimps and other mammals are hardwired (preloaded) for smiling and laughter. It is part of our grooming process that creates emotional communication between men and women, mothers and offspring, and empathy for others.

How come kids smile and laugh up to seventeen (17) times more than adults?
Answer: conditioning. We are programmed by our culture, media and career experience to believe those who smile and laugh are lazy, inattentive and indifferent.

We suppress smiling and laughter until it becomes inhibited and weak because it is
not often triggered. The neural network containing experiences that made us giggle, chuckle and guffaw in the past is just not firing their synapses as we age.

Disuse (abstinence) extinguishes neural networks, while rewards (other people joining in) induce a greater number of daily smiles and bouts of laughter.

But So What

Twelve (12) Benefits of Smiling & Laughter

Caution: you must read this list at least twice (2x) to get the guts of it.

1. Blood Circulation produces up to 12% more oxygen and glucose (energy) for body and mind when you smile or laugh often.
2. Speed of brain functions: up to 15% higher for optimal cognition.
3. Stress: reduced from mind and body (up to 18% by MRI reading).
4. Abdominal muscles and digestion strengthened by laughing.
5. Left and right brain: synchronized and integrated to work together.
6. Blood pressure lowered up to 10% based on how many smiles & duration of our daily laughing.
7. Diaphragmatic (deeper) breathing for up to six hours afterward.
8. Immune System produces a supply of Dopamine -(neurotransmitter) the pleasure hormone.
9. Attentiveness, heartbeat regularity and pulse rate are improved.
10. Long-term memory and learning skills enhanced up to 2x (double).
11. University of Maryland research: protection from stroke and heart
attack.
12. Pain (physical and mental) is reduced up to 50% and your healing rate increases by a surge of Endorphins.

Read the dozen rewards of smiling and laughter one more once. Now smile because
you have added to your health and longevity core knowledge.

You Cannot Tickle Yourself

Recent research at the University of Gothenburg (Sweden) and published in Nature
Neuroscience. Google: 4.15.09, Professor H. Olausson. Touching the skin can relieve
pain. Your skin being stoked has an express line directly to the brain.

Pain signals cannot block skin impulses of someone stroking our skin. Tickling overcomes pain – it deadens the pain stimuli. Inquiring minds should know that
being slowly tickled (stroked) activates specialized nerve fibers in our skin.

Pleasurable feelings are produced by our brain by these nerve fibers called CT nerves (C-Tactile). The longer and greater frequency of stroking (tickling) – the
greater the pleasure. But you cannot self-tickle, the sensation (emotion) must be
created by another.

Cerebellum Monitors Our Bodily Movements

Our little brain (cerebellum) prevents us from tickling ourselves. Why?
It can distinguish between Expected and Unexpected sensations. Tickling
is 90% triggered by unexpected sensation. Your brain knows (somatosensory
cortex) who is doing the tickling – you or a stranger?

An example of an expected bodily sensation is the feeling (pressure) of your fingertips while typing on the computer keyboard. Unexpected is a stranger
tickling your neck with a feather.

Endwords

Tickling causes involuntary twitching movements or laughter. The brain releases
endorphins (brain morphine) that cause euphoria and pleasure. It is called an
Opioid compound (opium-like) produced by your Pituitary gland and
hypothalamus. The affect, according to Alan Hirsch, M.D. lasts up to 12 hours.

Exercise

You remember the 12 benefits of smiling and laughing, right? How can you create
them on demand and improve your health and longevity?

a) Inner Child: if you see yourself making ridiculous faces in a
mirror, your instinctive reaction is to smile and even laugh.
b) We teach corporate executive and law students to fake (make-
believe) smiling. Google: orbicularis oculi (face muscles)
risorius muscles and zygomatic major. These three muscles
cause your eyes to squint and face to raise sides into a smile.
c) Mentally visualize (with strong emotion) a scene that you saw
on TV that tickled your funny-bone. Set a mood of relaxing
with a positive attitude of humor. Google: Funniest Videos.
d) Get your significant other to tickle your feet (bottoms).
Remember – two-minutes of tickling triggers up to 12 hours
of endorphins and dopamine – the pleasure hormone.
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Re: What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby applepie » Sat Mar 13, 2010 4:19 am

lol FreshCutGrass I absolutely love this post and the title! You have a point!

Thankyou for that, your are a nice guy really! :)

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Re: What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby FrayedEndOfSanity » Sat Mar 13, 2010 5:06 am

That's awesome. I've got a genuine smile on my face right now. :)

Now that you mention it, I have different reactions to being tickled when I'm in different moods. I don't mean that I like it and then hate it. I always like it. It's just that when I'm feeling down I'm not as ticklish as I am when I'm neutral or happy. It takes my fiance a lot longer to get me to squirm and have that "Ahhhh, tickles!!!" reaction. So I don't really feel it as strongly when I'm feeling low.

Hmmm...this is also true for me in more "intimate" situations.

I'm usually ticklish lately, though, so I guess that correlates with feeling good! :)

Great post! "Moar pls." :mrgreen:

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Re: What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby freshcutgrass » Sat Mar 13, 2010 6:05 am

It's just that when I'm feeling down I'm not as ticklish as I am when I'm neutral or happy. It takes my fiance a lot longer to get me to squirm and have that "Ahhhh, tickles!!!" reaction.


It's all in the build-up. There's an art to being the tickler. I'm not a big fan of the covert, instant surprise tickle.

You have to let them know you intend to do it. You need to approach slowly with your hands extended wiggling your fingers and a devilish grin or laugh. You want them to go through the various stages of avoiding it, otherwise it's no fun, and it makes the "torture" way better.

First they try the indifferent approach almost ignoring and looking away once they see what you're up to.."look...not in the mood...forget it". You just keep coming

Then when they see it hasn't had any effect, they try the serious tone..."I'm telling you right now...don't you dare!!!" you keep coming, fingers wiggling faster, evil laugh even louder.

Then they try the sympathy one by making up some kind of physical excuse in a whiny voice..."com'on...that thing with my leg is still bothering me...don't" You're almost on them now.

At this point all they have left is begging. Depending on their mood, they may or may not already start the laughing at this point even though you haven't actually touched them yet. LET THEM HAVE IT!!

Sometimes they run. Dumb move...never run from bears or lions when confronted...or ticklers. They're coming after you.

Some people are able to resist laughing initially, and actually make out like you are hurting them...if you fall for this one, you blow it. Go for broke...very few can hold out for long.

While it is a definite advantage to be able to physically overpower the prey, it's not necessary, as using too much force to avoid the tickle is an understood, unwritten tickle rule.
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Re: What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby Pairou » Sat Mar 13, 2010 12:22 pm

ohgodnodon'tticklemeeeeee
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Re: What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby AGCDEFG » Sat Mar 13, 2010 3:11 pm

Tickling a borderline is the same as tickling anyone else.

It has to be the right time. If it's too often, it's torture.

Laughter is good for everyone's souls, but imo I'd rather laugh because I hear a funny joke :lol:
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Re: What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby Lame Crusader » Sun Mar 14, 2010 9:39 pm

Pairou wrote:ohgodnodon'tticklemeeeeee


But it is so fun to watch you squirm and giggle uncontrollably. :twisted:
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Re: What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby sammyseaview » Tue Feb 22, 2011 6:51 am

what a lovely refreshing post. It made me smile. The simplicity and the polar complexity of a tickle. Wow, a bit like us borderlines! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on 'tickle therapy', definately a winner in my book. After a challenging and busy day it certainly has given me a much needed boost!
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Re: What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby peachplumpear » Wed Feb 23, 2011 9:40 am

two thirds of the time i get frightened when i'm tickled, i still laugh but i get overwhelmingly scared and it's really hard to get someone to stop because you're begging but laughing at the same time. but holy $#%^, it's terrifying - i can't describe it.
it could just be because i had a nightmare about being tickled when i was little, i was chased by a scary man but instead of stabbing me he tickled me. come to think of it, whenever i have a dream that involves pain, i know you're not supposed to feel in your sleep but i wake up feeling ticklish.

well, that was weird.
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Re: What happens if you tickle a Borderline?

Postby EarlGreyDregs » Wed Feb 23, 2011 5:46 pm

I hate being tickled. Always. Its fcuking torture.
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