is this a borderline trait?

i've recently been diagnosed with bpd and am still kinda confused about it. I knew i had (a lot of) problems before this diagnosis, just confused as to whether bpd describes them or not. I know several of the criteria describe me perfectly but don't think others do. And to me i think i fall somewhere between bpd and non-bpd.

The part of bpd that confuses me the most is the identity disturbance bit because it seems to fit, but not in the same way as a lot of other people describe it. Basically i generally value other peoples opinions of me far more highly than i value my own. And so if somebody says something about me (especially if its negative) i will generally treat it as being true, even if i'd thought the exact opposite up until that point. My self-esteem and self-confidence both change a lot depending on what people do or say around me and its almost like what i think of me doesn't matter (though i still have a view on myself). And the way i act can change quite dramatically around people, though i think thats mainly down to fluctuating self-esteem and self-confidence.

But it doesn't affect anything else other than my view of myself. It doesn't affect my opinions of other people or my views on the world in general or my beliefs and am quite happy expressing my opinions when they differ from people i'm around, and that doesn't match up to descriptions that i have read about identity disturbance.

So i'm confused. Does anyone have any thoughts on whether or not this is a borderline trait?

HI Jenny729

This could be an underlining trait to BPD, it may help cause the other issues in BPD - its all about the self esteem thing. I have it to - very similar to what you explain. I hate thinking what ther people may think of me - I always feel I am being judged, even if I dont know the person, or even if it is someone in the street looking at me funny. But if I have dressed up nicely and done my hair and make up etc and I feel good about myself and think I look nice that day and no one comments good or bad on how I look - I then automatically think that I looked like $#%^ because nobody seemed to notice. I know this is silly but I cant seem to help it - I am always looking for approval from people.

Is this how you feel at all