Mother is a borderline.... anyone else grow up with one?

Took me almost 40 years to understand why she acts the way she does and took me almost another 40 to be friends with her....

anyone else have borderline parents?

I think my mother has BPD. While growing up, I always thought I was the problem. Everything set her off. I was not allowed to say that we had anything other than a "perfect" relationship or she'd get quite upset. After leaving home and meeting other people's parents who were more normal, I realized there was something definitely wrong.

I read that women with BPD usually are attracted to men who are very unemotional, to counter their overly emotional nature. So my mother married a man with severe Narcissistic Personality Disorder. My father showed no love/emotions and my mother was very loving, possessive, emotionally unstable, etc.

In short, I'm so glad that my childhood/teenage years are over. =P

I believe my mother has borderline. My eldest brother did, and he committed suicide. I think my mother does too, but it's never been diagnosed, and it's too difficult now that she's older and set in her ways.

It makes sense though, because I could never confront her or challenge anything she said, even if something was really bothering me. I'm the youngest of the siblings, and I hope everyday that this doesn't get the best of me like it did my brother.