I am so f___ing sick of of this sh___

Christmas was the last straw. My soon to be ex obsessed over the gifts I got my children for over a month. It all came to a head this past weekend.
She has cut off all contact with my children. She has been mean as hell, and I am not exagerating. I will never be able to talk to her again, ever. She has accused me of so much BS, and manipulated and hurt my children to such a degree, it is unbelievable.
I refuse to ever set foot within 500 miles of her, talk to her, nothing. I am so pissed off, the way she has handled this. The things she has done to my children and me and my family. The things she has said. I will never even look at her again.
I have all of the childrens pictures, their baby pictures. Her screwed up family has only a couple of copies of what I took. She will never get them.
I have never hated anybody in my whole life until now. She has declared all out war on me, and I am up to the task. And that scares me. I have never felt this way towards another human being in my life, but I don't even see her as human. She is just sick and sadistic and the most self centered thing I have ever seen. I know how to hurt her, and I will spend the rest of my life doing so.
It's on.

Most woman are cruel deceitful people. Its unfortunate nature has cursed them with an emotionally controlled brain. It is beyond their capacity to achieve a males level of logical thinking.

YarlSoutan wrote:Most woman are cruel deceitful people. Its unfortunate nature has cursed them with an emotionally controlled brain. It is beyond their capacity to achieve a males level of logical thinking.

I hope you're joking, because that's just ridiculous.

Hi, vinceh4! Do you have the kids? It's awful that she's put you through this, but I think you should concentrate on keeping them safe and not on revenge.
YarlSoutan, your comment isn't helpful to this poster and we don't allow "jokes" like that here.

Hi, vinceh4! Do you have the kids? It's awful that she's put you through this, but I think you should concentrate on keeping them safe and not on revenge.
YarlSoutan, your comment isn't helpful to this poster.

jasmin wrote:Hi, vinceh4! Do you have the kids? It's awful that she's put you through this, but I think you should concentrate on keeping them safe and not on revenge.
YarlSoutan, your comment isn't helpful to this poster.

Yes you are right. I have tried to keep them 1st during this entire ordeal. I have not maligned their mother. She is using them as a weapon against me. She is hurting them indirectly by trying to hurt me.
She seems to think that it does not matter if they respect me or not. If she paints me in a negative light to them, that is ok.
I think that is horrible. That will only hurt them. The thing is, in order not to "manipulate" the situation or sink to that level, I have to go through the courts. That is the only place that rationality will prevale.
It just requires patience on my part, and hopefully understanding on the part of my children. I am unable to contact or see them in anyway until I get a court order in Feb. Things have gotten that far out of hand.
As I said somewhere else, when she hurts me I don't care. I am used to it after 17 years, but when she hurts people I deeply care about, especially my children, it gets to me.

I am using all of my patience and I hope I don't run out. I almost did when I started this thread. It still is day to day. Sometimes I just let it go, but other times I am really pissed at what she is doing to them.

I am still trying to take the "high road", though. Thanks for reminding me, jasmin.

She is hurting you and the kids, from what I can tell. She has no right to do this. Some people just don't care about the suffering they are causing. Are you going to try and get custody of them?

jasmin wrote:She is hurting you and the kids, from what I can tell. She has no right to do this. Some people just don't care about the suffering they are causing. Are you going to try and get custody of them?

I spoke with a psychiatrist and my lawyer. They both said it would be extremely difficult to get custody, even if she was diagnosed in a court ordered psych eval.
Emotional and psychological abuse are hard to prove. If she was smoking crack and having wild parties, neglecting their health, which she is in a way, she feeds them crap and they have to scrounge for their own food, then maybe I would have a chance.

I have also been warned here, and by a psychiatrist that she would do everything in her power to keep that from happening. I would be seriously concerned that would even go so far as to hire someone to kill me if she had to. SERIOUSLY!

She is that bad. She starts obsessing and it brews and brews then she'll snap and have a micro psychotic episode. When that happens, all hell literally breaks out. She will stop at nothing to try and hurt or get vengance against me. There is no rationality or logic at this point. And everyone around her gets taken along for the ride.

The advice I have received is to place myself in a position where when this happens, I can remain unaffected. That means I live far away. That means no discussions that allow her manipulation, which in this case means no communication except when to send the children to me, and when to pick them up.
It also means that when I do have the children, I should create a safe haven for them. A loving and consistent enviroment. I can't do that near her. I tried, but she always interferes or trys to thwart or sabatoge my visits.

It is this way, and she has engineered it that way. I don't believe this is what she wanted, but when she loses it, she does not consider the ramifications of her actions.

Maybe you can build a great relationship with the kids and create a safe haven for them, like you said, and when they're old enough to decide, you could ask them if they want to stay with you. But don't let any one find out that this is your plan.

thats a pretty scary thing because if you don't win there will surely be hell to pay