Please help- Girlfriend is BPD and keeps breaking my heart

I am reaching out for some help. My ex girlfriend who is 33 has BPD and she has broken up with me 6 times in the past 4 years. She has almost all the symptoms of BPH but she will not admit she has it. She was abandoned by her mother when she was young, and had either physical or emotional/mental abuse. I read the symptoms of BPD and it fits her perfectly. I love this woman more than i can ever explain and i have tried so hard to hold on to her through the hardest time of my life. She will always come up with a reason to break up with me, and then she views me as the devil. She will not talk to me, and if she does she is so rude and condasending. I want to help her so badly. Please help.

I hope someone will please reply. I love this woman with all my heart, and right now she has me as being the bad person and she wont even talk to me. Please help.

((((((((loydchristmas)))))))) It's awful that you're going through this. Is she getting any professional help? This must be so hard for you, but you can't force her to change her behaviour. You don't deserve to be treated this way. Try to remember what made her come back to you and see if it might happen again. When you will be able to talk to her normally, you can do your best to convince her that she needs to get help. She is lucky to have you.
You can talk here as much as you like.

Thank you so much for responding. I really need someone to talk to right now. I have gone through these break-ups and they make me feel like dirt everytime. I try so hard to hang onto her because i know what is truly in her heart. Thanks again.

She has to want to change so she won't keep doing this to you. You don't have to put up with it for ever.

Just maybe.
Being strong and enduring is worth it.
Its difficult for her to trust her if you want to change her.
It's all about (sight), trust and seing throught what she says.

It is so hard for me to hang in there. She really acts like she hates me right now. It happens everytime we break up. I have never broken up with her or even thought of it. The hardest part is that if i jsut leave her alone and dont talk to her, she ends up dating with and sleeping with other guys. It kills me inside. I take the blame for everything, and carry the whole relationship on my back.

If I ever get to talk to her, my emotions are so strong that i cry. And she is so insensitive that she will tell me "I dont want to listen to you cry" and will hang up the phone. I mean this is stuff i wouldnt do to my worst enemy. Please help.

You don't deserve this. If you keep putting up with it, she will never be forced to aknowledge the fact that it's wrong and she may not change. I'm sure it breaks your heart when she sleeps with other guys, but you can't keep putting yourself through this.
When you got back together, did she ever apologise like she meant it? If you take the blame for everything on yourself nothing good can come out of it. She is abusing you emotionally and she's still responsible for her actions. Maybe she enjoys the control she seems to have over you.

Yeah i guess it could be called control. I think the big thing is that i care about her more than she cares about me, or anyone for that matter.

It's possible, loyd. She could care about you sometimes, but she could just be feeding off your suffering most of the time. If she's broken up with you so often and never tried to change after seeing the pain it was causing you, that is the impression I'm getting. Not all people who have a mental illness are the same and someone could very well just decide to cause pain.