Is it true that it'd be easy "to bed" a woman with BPD?

Please forgive me for asking such a crass question, but a psychology professor once made a passing comment about how easy it would be "to bed" a woman with BPD. (He wasn't saying that he'd do it; he was just sharing an observation.)

Is that true?

I mean (and forgive me for being so insensitive), I'm a guy in mid 20's with schizoid/avoidant symptoms who has never had a girlfriend in his life. I've never had sex, either. So, in theory, my chances of having sex with a woman with BPD are higher than those of having sex with a non-BPD woman?

Hey again,

He most likely said it as a joke, and was being arrogant about it. You should never use a person's mental illness to take advantage of them in a sexual way. That would be very 'low', I'm sure you'll agree.

Kevin

Chucky wrote:Hey again,

He most likely said it as a joke, and was being arrogant about it. You should never use a person's mental illness to take advantage of them in a sexual way. That would be very 'low', I'm sure you'll agree.

Kevin

I agree with you, but you still haven't answered my question

hehe, okay okay. Well, no-one can answer this question correctly with a simple 'yes' or 'no'. In fact, the question is so unfair to answer, that any answer a person gives will most likely be refuted by another person. Basically, what I'm saying is, you shouldn't even think about such a thing as people with BPD being easier to 'bed' than other people. It holds no substance and is so close to being a rhetorical question (whilst not actually being one).

Do you know what I mean?

Your lecturer was irresponsible for making such a comment.

Kevin

IMO
you probably will never have sex because the reason you aren't having sex has more to do with yourself than with the people you are trying or not trying to bed

this is the conclusion i came to about myself being a various-personality-disordered girl when i was trying to date and have relationships.

Borderlines often have sexual issues, including promiscuity. It COULD be said that a borderline might be "easier" to engage in casual sex, yes. But it is also a disturbing generalization coming from someone who is supposed to be well-educated about mental disorders.

In the same spirit of trying not to sound insensitive, and in reality not doing so well at it, I would say that if you were looking to just have sex with someone, you could target a borderline with slightly more confidence than if you approached someone who wasn't. That said, it should also be pointed out that any "success" you experienced would be tainted, since you would actually be exacerbating the borderline's issues. And likely your own! Not to mention the emotional can of worms you open should your partner decide she'd like to continue beyond sex to a relationship.

Well-said Squisha, and I just want to add that if there are actually guys out there who are taking advantage of HPD girls for sexual reasons, I hope that the HPD girl sees right through them and gives them a kick in the balls.

Kevin

Well in my case, I will admit I am "easy." I mean I am good at what or whom I do. Yes I am borderline (also narcissistic) and I am seductive. They think I'm sexually aggressive too haha. I think yes it would be easier to have sex with a BPD person because they are so vulnerable, not saying that I am that way because I''m not. Generally I think borderlines are more sexually charged like someone on here said they have issues regarding sex. I want to meet this professor of yours. I could teach him a lot about this topic

44 wrote:Well in my case, I will admit I am "easy." I mean I am good at what or whom I do. Yes I am borderline (also narcissistic) and I am seductive. They think I'm sexually aggressive too haha. I think yes it would be easier to have sex with a BPD person because they are so vulnerable, not saying that I am that way because I''m not. Generally I think borderlines are more sexually charged like someone on here said they have issues regarding sex. I want to meet this professor of yours. I could teach him a lot about this topic

44, so you mean to say that a 20 something schizoid/avoidant virgin actually has a chance with a borderline?

For someone with AvPD being with an BPD is probably more likely than being with an non-BPD.
I’m 20 something with AvPD and the only relationship I've ever had is with someone with BPD.
If you meet a very sexually forward women and plan on having a one night stand and you have suspicions she might be borderline, run like the wind!
You might think how brilliant a women who is willing to take control in the bedroom department. But borderline is a severe mental illness and getting involved with one is a very bad idea. Trust me!