adolecsent with BPD?

Hello,
Sorry this is long. I hope someone has the patients to read it.
My son turned 15 in a mental hospital in Jan. this year. Up until the age of 14 I had what I thought to be a pretty "normal" kid. Our lives as a family have been pretty normal. 2 other kids doing well in collage and one more on the way. My husband his step-father and I have been together since he was 4.
I always knew he had some issues with mood swings and social issues but he was managing. He had been on a gluten free diet and taking cod liver oil for 2 yrs. The diet seemed to help, but was too difficult to maintain into the teen years.
My son had been a high achiever with very little school absentees, last year he was on the principles list with an average of 95 all by himself. His school is in a very rural setting and has limited sports but he played soccer, basketball and baseball which kept him busy all during the school year.
My son's accomplishment though were obtained due to the fact that his other siblings also did well in school and not due to any "liking' he felt for education or sports. I have noticed for a couple of years now that he lacks connection to the world.
He loves me and that seems to be it and when we are at odds then he hates me.
He started off the school year OK a 93 average and soccer, then due to his friends getting caught with some drugs he was suspended. He did not have any,non the less he was still suspended.
After this suspension he went crazy. He started using marijuana daily, he became physically violent with me. He missed so many days of school he was in danger of not passing. It came to a head in Jan. when he brought a knife into the car with me; he had been threating subside, I grabbed the knife wound-up in the hospital and the police took him to the hospital.
He was released after 3 weeks to go live with his dad. That lasted a month. He was using marijuana so heavily his father could not handle him and he sent him back to me where he was sent to rehab for almost 3 months. Doing well he was released. It was a duel facility so he was put on resperadol, zoloft, and ativan(spelling).
He lasted 7 days at home and his behavior was so out of control we took him back where he now is at the mental hospital, been there 3 weeks.
I have been reading a lot. I want to help my son and make sure he goes to the right treatment center; also it needs to take my insurance. I don't know what he needs, BPD, conduct disorder, How will I know?
Can someone help me!
I am
seekinghope

Hey,

Surely he has been assigned a doctor in the hospital? I mean, one that he sees on a weekly basis to assess your son's progression, no? If he is seeing a doctor there, I'm sure - as his parent - you are entitled to call the doctor and ask for feedback.

Do you blame his friends for what happened? It could be that your son is the vulnerable type and was taken onto a different path in life by his friends, a path that he could not handle. Drugs can alter the functioning of the brain, and that is maybe what has happened here. I mean, that is why these drugs are illegal - They damage the brain.

It may take a while but I'm sure that your son will find his feet in life again. We all go through 'iffy' phases in life - Maybe this is his one right now.

I hope it all goes well for you,
Take care,
Kevin

Today his doctor said he thought the first course of action was a drug rehab to correct the problem of self-medicating with marijuana.
Hope I am making the right decision. He is so young.

I am,
seekinghope

Hey, I'm sure that you are making the right decision. He is better in the hospital than he is with his 'friends', right? He is safe in the hospital and is on the road to recovery. He will get his life back on the right track eventually, but it just may take longer than other people his age.

Kevin