She said "There are worst things people are going through"

Whenever I hear this statement, I just wonder does my problems not matter? I believe that there are no "worst" problems. Everyone has problems and everyone has different reactions to these problems. I wish people would just not say that statement. I feel guilty for having BPD when someone tells me that other people are going through worst. Do I not matter too? It hurts a lot... The fact that i'm hypersensitive does not help when people "try" to talk to me because somehow any word they say will make me feel hurt and mad. People just suck at being there and being supportive for someone like me I guess. I just wish they could see my point-of-view like feel my pain that is burning me inside. It hurts so much and I don't know how I can make someone understand that this pain hurts so much that I would rather die sometimes.

The people who want to compare people's trauma's just cause a lot of hurt. I've also had a number of people do it, including a therapist.

I don't mind where people say "I've been through something similar, so I kind of understand where you're coming from...", even though it might not exactly feel like it, at least they're being sensitive about it and trying to empathise. But the guy I had who compared bullying experiences with "well, YOU think YOU had it bad..." and proceeded to tell me my experience was nothing compared to his, well he lost me there.

I know it's hard, but try to switch off to them. You do matter and your feeling and problems are important. I do get hurt every single time someone does it to me, but I'm getting better at not letting them keep on doing it over and over.

i once told my therapist i wish i had the kind of family my neighbor has, he said: some people are born handicapped.

though at times i think some people's problems are minute compared to mine... so i'm a hypocrite here.

i guess reasons people say this are:
1) they dont know what to say. they're tired of listening to my repetitive arguments about the same topic n they're helpless
2) they genuinely want me to feel better n think this comment will help

I have had this happen to me a lot, and it is incredibly hurtful. I’ve had it in the worst way.

I was basically told by a mental health professional that my feelings and thoughts and consideration of suicide weren’t valid because I was talking to her instead of doing it, yet ‘some people actually do it’ ha.

However, sadly, I am a hypocrite as I can also be one of these people. I can see others upset sometimes or distressed and I get irritated thinking ‘I’ve been through far worse... you snowflake’...

However I’d never say it. That’s the difference. I try to silence the bitch inside me and not let her out.

-- Mon Apr 06, 2020 5:34 pm --

I don’t think anyone should ever say that, even if they feel it. Cause at the end of the day you don’t know how someone else is feeling and what they are going through.

I think it just what people say.

You're right, every single person's problems, challenges and issues are as important as each others.

If people just keep putting your problem to the bottom of the pile in this way then how are you ever going to get better or stronger.

That was in response to op BTW.