Have you ever told anyone about your BPD?

Yes, and I never will again simply because the moment I did I became my diagnosis instead of a human being to them.

I've told immediate family and a few close friends. Some have been really cool; they haven't treated me any different than they did before. Other friends though...well, once they learned the party bus was actually a crazy train, they got off at the next stop.

They say anything outright, but they were suddenly always busy when I called them (when they weren't before), and they stopped calling me. I got the message shortly enough.

I've an old friend, someone who I had a short relationship with that ended and we stayed friends. They are a therapist. I feel an affinity with them despite the fact we now live miles apart and we've both moved on several times over.

I shared my diagnosis with her today partly because of her understanding and also because of her profession. She is, it turns out, a fellow sufferer. I am both very surprised and in a way, I fully understand, it makes a lot of sense.

It can be a strange world.

-- Wed Jun 07, 2017 8:00 pm --

I've an old friend, someone who I had a short relationship with that ended and we stayed friends. They are a therapist. I feel an affinity with them despite the fact we now live miles apart and we've both moved on several times over.

I shared my diagnosis with her today partly because of her understanding and also because of her profession. She is, it turns out, a fellow sufferer. I am both very surprised and in a way, I fully understand, it makes a lot of sense.

It can be a strange world.

kah80 wrote:I've told basically everyone I know, because I think it will get me attention.

I give you props for honesty.

I feel so bad, so extremly bad!!! I was so stabile and everything was going well, maybe too well..I started new job and it seems to be perfect, everything, the colleagues..I do not know what happened to me today, maybe I slept too little. I am at the moment doing a training course with colleques in health coaching, which remembers me a little to my therapy maybe that is why I opened up. I opened up to my new colleque, I told her that I had depression because she told me before, but I started talking and talking about more and more and about really bad stuff that happened to me or better what I did to me. I deeply regret, we know ech other 1week and I never talked about this with anyone and now I told everything. Everything without any order without any sense in someone else's eyes...i deeply regret, she was nice but I dont know her, I can maybe not trust her, maybe someone will know and maybe i loose my job, maybe peoople will think i am realky crazy because i told strange things, I stard to tell things like i did bad things to myself and police took me to inward and then i switched..i was in this situatuon in my head i did not have any overview about anything about any order of happenings..i was like being psychotic. I feel so bad. I can not remember much i was so strong last two years and after two years i found this job i am going crazy i am afraid of loosing control. Please if someone is out there? But it is time shift right?

Daisey wrote:Yes, and I never will again simply because the moment I did I became my diagnosis instead of a human being to them.

Daisy, that is so sad and I feel your pain. This is my exact fear. BPD affects every sufferer differently and I worry that people just believe every possible way it can affect someone rather than learning from the person.

-- Tue Jun 27, 2017 12:47 pm --

TwinkleStar wrote:I feel so bad, so extremly bad!!! I was so stabile and everything was going well, maybe too well..I started new job and it seems to be perfect, everything, the colleagues..I do not know what happened to me today, maybe I slept too little. I am at the moment doing a training course with colleques in health coaching, which remembers me a little to my therapy maybe that is why I opened up. I opened up to my new colleque, I told her that I had depression because she told me before, but I started talking and talking about more and more and about really bad stuff that happened to me or better what I did to me. I deeply regret, we know ech other 1week and I never talked about this with anyone and now I told everything. Everything without any order without any sense in someone else's eyes...i deeply regret, she was nice but I dont know her, I can maybe not trust her, maybe someone will know and maybe i loose my job, maybe peoople will think i am realky crazy because i told strange things, I stard to tell things like i did bad things to myself and police took me to inward and then i switched..i was in this situatuon in my head i did not have any overview about anything about any order of happenings..i was like being psychotic. I feel so bad. I can not remember much i was so strong last two years and after two years i found this job i am going crazy i am afraid of loosing control. Please if someone is out there? But it is time shift right?

There's a couple of different ways to look at the situation you describe, as an outsider.

1. The colleague you told maybe just thinks now that you are an open person. She shared with you that she suffered from depression and then you shared your story.

2. If she shares with others what you have told her then you will find out at some point. Don't let it bother you or worry about it. You will just learn that you cannot trust that person and won't share things with them again in future.

3. Could you lose your job? Perhaps but it wouldn't be legal, they would have to find a way to fire or let you go which doesn't point to your illness. It is surprisingly easily done but if you do good work then they aren't going to fire you over an illness. If it really bothers you then a chat with HR may be handy. Be honest and tell them about your illness but explain that it is under control with medication and therapists etc. From that discussion you will learn how in the know they are about mental illness and if they want to support you as an employee through someone which you cannot control.

4. You could always go to the person you shared the info with and just sort of apologise if they felt a little uncomfortable with you sharing that with them. This could help to clear the air if either of you still feel a little awkward about it.

Have you ever told anyone about your BPD?

Just close friends. My family knows I've had problems but otherwise they're clueless. I don't tell anyone in RL otherwise.